For those of you in long term A's

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Registered: 01-30-2009
For those of you in long term A's
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Mon, 02-16-2009 - 4:46pm

an honest question here... How do you do it, keep it a secret for years and years? I've only been in my A for 3 months or so and can barely keep the secret, my H barely gives me a second to breathe.

So, questions:
- do you communicate often? Do you have a secret phone or use a work phone
- do you see each other often? If so, what do you tell your H or W?
- How do you not want more? be happy in your M but keep the A going? I have a hard time with being happy with both

I'm sorry, and just naive about all of this but cannot imagine keeping this going for years without getting caught.

TIA

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Registered: 08-08-2005
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 10:17am

Hi Mrs!

My AP and I have strict rules, but it keeps us from being discovered. We still have a GREAT time together non the less. Being a little paranoid in an A isn't necessarily a bad thing! You are so lucky to be able to travel with your AP, even if its work. My AP and I have only been able to travel out of town once and that was because we were both able to coordinate meetings in the same city at the same time. Oh was it fun...

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