For those of you who are married with A

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For those of you who are married with A
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Wed, 09-30-2009 - 2:46pm

So for those of you who are married with an AP how do you handle things like over nights, meetings, etc? What excuses do you use to be able to see each other? I am just looking for ideas and ways I can figure out how to be with AP and not be super suspicious....

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Wed, 09-30-2009 - 10:19pm
I say I am going with an out of state friend, we meet halfway, and she covers for me, but, H has been very suspicious lately, he even asked me to text a picture of us together last time we "got together". He freaked out on me when I didnt answer my phone, cause I knew he was going to ask to talk to her. So, I guess that is not going to work anymore. I have to lay low for a little, until he calms down, i dont want to get caught, I am contemplating a separation right now, and if I have a DDay it would be devastating, well, it would be devastating in any circumstance! I've used shopping, movies is good, cant have your phone on in the theater, but that wont help you for overnights. I have used work related trips to get away overnight, I am running out of excuses, let me know if you come up with any.
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Wed, 09-30-2009 - 11:54pm
My A is over, but we studied together a lot, or shopped. xh always knew when we were together. We didn't have any over nights, except one when xh was out of town, and then xh was gone for a week and xap only stayed 1 night. xh was always suspicious.
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Wed, 09-30-2009 - 11:57pm
Do yourself the favor and just get the separation. Stop thinking about it and just get out.
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Thu, 10-01-2009 - 5:18pm

Do you hear the ticking?....it the sound of your marriage just before it's about to blow up.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Thu, 10-01-2009 - 7:39pm

Hi btdtbd44,


I'm reading your post and darn it you are my new she-ro!!!


If only we could save them all and spare them the pain that is unspeakable. If only there was some way to warn them..to tell them what

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.