For those of you who have had a Dday

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-30-2007
For those of you who have had a Dday
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Fri, 09-26-2008 - 9:14am

How long did it take you to hear from your AP, or did you hear from him at all?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2008
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 11:09am

My DDay was years ago.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2007
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 1:00pm

There is no exact time after which AP will contact when a DDay occurs. How the DDay happened is a good indicator,especially about the character of your AP.

Many AP's run for the hills after a Dday but after initial shock,stand by = Coward and unreliable. Some talk about it and go into LC mode = Planner and Reliable.Some vanish into thin air but show up after months of being to some outer planet= Never let them in again.most dangerous.will throw you again like a fly from milk! Very few stick thru the thick and thin = has anyone met that guy ?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-2007
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 2:38pm

Raising my hand - yup - I met that guy.

lightning in my heart

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2008
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 3:27pm

Was it your Dday or his?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-25-2004
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 5:15pm
My AP and I have not had a D-Day, but I can tell you that he is visibly terrified by the prospect of her even getting a provable inkling. (He has been caught having an A before by this W and my understanding is that it was VERY scary, losts of screaming, etc.) So, yes, I think that men can be scared sh!tless about the whole prospect. The question that always runs through my mind, though, is: Are they scared of dealing with the drama or scared of losing their marriages. That would be a very telling thing as well.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-30-2007
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 11:41pm
It was his Dday, I got a message from the wife that she knew and what a worthless slut I was.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2008
Sat, 09-27-2008 - 12:53am
There can be more than those two reasons for an AP to be scared.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-13-2008
Sat, 09-27-2008 - 11:05am

That is exactly my AP....BIG career; wife never worked, married over 20 years...wanted to wait until DS was in college, then leave; that's less than 2 years away, but then DD in July, and BAM!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-2007
Sat, 09-27-2008 - 11:47am

OMG - CPLove!!!


Soooooo happy to hear from you.

lightning in my heart