Time again for roll call!

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Time again for roll call!
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Fri, 06-25-2010 - 11:00am

It's been awhile, and we have some newbies here, so lets all share our stories so everyone will better get to know everyone else.

I get so sick of telling my story - if it weren't dangerous I'd have a copy in "word" to re-post everytime we have a roll call but here goes (short version).

I've been married many years to a man I met in high school and we have grown children and grandchildren. I met my OM online on a social message board. A mutual cyber friend introduced us because she knew he didn't live that far from me (about 35 min. - REALLY close in the cyberworld) and she knew we would hit it off. We met for real after e-mailing and flirting on the message board for awhile, and now, here it is, 11 years later! (Actually 11 1/2) My OM is single. I have many conflicts about that, from hoping that I am NOT getting in his way of finding a real relationship, to feeling dread at the thought that he will find one someday - much as I hope he will! He is not my first affair, although I had my first at 15 years of marriage. I came to MAS about 3 or 4 years ago (really can't remember) and have been an off and on again poster. When I realized in March that there hadn't been a CL here for months, and that the board was suffering from that lack, I decided to step up and apply for the position myself.

So, please share your story here and let us get to know you!

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Registered: 06-01-2010
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 12:15pm

I'm a MW involved with a MM.

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Registered: 05-29-2010
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 12:35pm

Here's my story.

Involved in a 6 month PA and EA with a MM that I met where I was working a contract position. Our offices were at the end of the hall, right next to each other, so we started talking all the time. Lots of stuff in common, we got along great, started talking about intimate things, then I made the move on him one day and things got really intense after that. We would fool around in our offices, I went over to his house one night (DW was working overnight) and it was a night of alcohol and sex. It's more than just the physical part too. He confides in me and shares things with me that I know he doesn't with his wife; she and I are very different and I am more emotionally supportive and open. Then he started feeing guilty around the time of his anniversary with his DW and pulled back, but then came back the next day and wanted to continue. He was kinda hot and cold for awhile which really hurt, but when my contract was close to being up, we had a talk and I guess he realized how much he didn't want to lose me, because he's been hot ever since. We're planning to get together next week :)

So this is my 3rd affair, and they have all been with the same BF. Someone on the board asked why I don't just break up with him, and hoped that I wasn't going to marry him. Well, we have been together for 7 years, it's not just that easy to walk away from that. I love him so much, we are best friends, I want to spend the rest of my life with him. At the same time though, we met when we were young and I never thought/wanted to be the person who settles down that young, but I was. So what do I do, let go of the man of my dreams, the love of my life, so I can satisfy some need to be with other men? Or do I hang on to him selfishly, and have As to fill that need? It's not a black and white situation.

My first A was with a SM, and lasted about 2 years. It was very passionate and tumultuous, he was doing a lot of drugs and caused me a lot of trouble before I finally decided to end it. I still think about him and if he ever contacted me again, I would see him in a heartbeat.

My second is more of an FWB, and we still sleep together when we see each other (which isn't too often now that we live pretty far apart). We had hooked up years ago but then went back to being just friends. Then one night at a bar he asked if I remembered that night years ago, which I did, and wanted to know if I wanted to pick up where we left off, which I did. But that's much more just friends who are attracted to each other and fooling around than the current A I am in right now.

So that's me and my sordid life!

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 1:10pm

I'm a MW involved with a MM.

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 1:14pm

Hey all - I've shared it a bunch - but here we go again


I met AP when I was 15 in high school overseas

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Registered: 04-06-2010
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 1:35pm
I been married for sixteen-years and on my second affair. My marriage is a total disaster and not because of my affairs. I been unhappy for years but for the sake of my children I have stay. Having these affairs have cost me to hate my husband even more. Now, a day I can stand to look at him. I truly hate him with a passion. I am doing my best to get out of the marriage but it is easier said then done. My goals are with in a year to be rid of him and to live on my own with my children. I do not see my ap in my future.
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Registered: 12-03-2009
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 2:24pm

well here goes.......


Last October started an A with an old college friend of mine.

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Registered: 07-24-2009
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 2:50pm

Married 13 yrs. and involved with a married man for nearly six.

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Registered: 06-01-2010
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 3:00pm

I am a SW he is a MM ours started off as a friendship after he added me on FB back in february.He recognised me from our teens and admitted he had a crush on me back then. talked for hours on FB everyday about anything and everything we just clicked.


He moved back to my hometown in march and we met in april and the A started from then. However I think it was an EA long before we met and both of us knew that something would happen.


It's been a rocky ride so far and it's still relatively new. He was unhappy in his M, even before I came along, hence moving back to our hometown. He said he has tried to make his M work but he has lost all trust in his W( bit of double standards now as he is now in an A).


He has always told me he will be leaving and not for me but for himself. He wants me to wait for him as his home situation is complicated at the moment. He knows I am willing to wait but only for so long.


Don't see him as much as

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Registered: 04-28-2010
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 5:12pm
I'm a newbie to the board and my story is short compared to the others. I am a MM in a EA with a MM. I have been married for 10yrs, him for 25yrs. His kids are grown, one in college, one in highschool. I've got three in elementary school and one in PreK. We met at work about a year and a half ago. He was a contractor working on a project for us. We had to interact daily and soon became friendly and the friendship started to develop. Over time getting to know each other we talked about more personal things, our marriages, etc. We began to look for each other to chat. Then the flirting started, followed by several lunches and a ride on his Harley. I wasn't sure if I was reading too much into his friendliness so I told him how I felt to just get it out there. He admitted to having feelings of attraction also. Then I left for vacation, so that is where we are now. The cat is out of the bag and I'll have to see what happens when I get back to work in 2 weeks. The project he was working on for us finished last July, but another one came up in our building so he has been around since then. The current one is scheduled to finish the end of July, so I am not sure what will happen then. He'll still be on campus, but not in my building. This is my first affair. I am not really sure how I ended up in this place, but something is missing from my marriage. I am not attracted to my husband anymore, we haven't been intimate in 4 yrs, but he is my friend. MM is the first person I have been attracted to in a long time and it seems I can't help myself...
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Registered: 10-03-2009
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 5:20pm
mm here in a two-yr A with a mw.. met online.. then in rl.. have our ups and downs.. we do have kind of an lda and see each other about once a month and communicate regularly..

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