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| Fri, 06-25-2010 - 11:00am |
It's been awhile, and we have some newbies here, so lets all share our stories so everyone will better get to know everyone else.
I get so sick of telling my story - if it weren't dangerous I'd have a copy in "word" to re-post everytime we have a roll call but here goes (short version).
I've been married many years to a man I met in high school and we have grown children and grandchildren. I met my OM online on a social message board. A mutual cyber friend introduced us because she knew he didn't live that far from me (about 35 min. - REALLY close in the cyberworld) and she knew we would hit it off. We met for real after e-mailing and flirting on the message board for awhile, and now, here it is, 11 years later! (Actually 11 1/2) My OM is single. I have many conflicts about that, from hoping that I am NOT getting in his way of finding a real relationship, to feeling dread at the thought that he will find one someday - much as I hope he will! He is not my first affair, although I had my first at 15 years of marriage. I came to MAS about 3 or 4 years ago (really can't remember) and have been an off and on again poster. When I realized in March that there hadn't been a CL here for months, and that the board was suffering from that lack, I decided to step up and apply for the position myself.
So, please share your story here and let us get to know you!

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It's so interesting reading the full versions of the stories instead of getting them piecemeal in the other posts like I usually do...
I am a MW in an A with a MM.
I'm a 44 year old SW in an A with a 44 MM. We dated in high school and he was truly my first love. We went off to college and tried to keep in touch, but it was slim. Our senior year of college we started to talk again...he was dating someone, but was going to break it off..well she announced she was pregnant. They married. Twenty years later we both were teaching in school districts near each other. We started to talk via email. Then meet a few times. Over the past five years we have met less than a dozen times until the last month. We have been communicating daily and trying to see each other weekly. We have an amazing time together..it is just so comfortable yet exciting.
I have been honest with him. I do not want a continued A. That is not what I'm looking for with him. He has told me that his youngest graduates in June of 2011 and he would not leave until after that. He did not tell me he would leave for sure though.
Anyway..that is where we stand. I'm more sad in the relationship than happy because I do want more than an A, so I deal with that daily.
I am a SW (was MW when I met AP, but was already starting the process of ending M before I even thought of the idea
I am SW dating a MM.
The short version: MW in an a w/ MM...met him last summer, started off fast & furious, emotions ran amok as we fell HARD for each other. We both had a hard time w/ that and ended it b/c of obligations on both sides that make D's not an option right now...only to revive it this past spring. Despite being in a pretty good M, AP just adds incredible dimensions to my life that I have missed for a VERY long time. We're GREAT friends first and foremost, but there's an incredibly strong attraction as well.
Been on these boards for about 7 months, but didn't start posting here on MAS until spring when A started back up. During my A hiatus I wanted to die...seriously...So I dove into learning all I could about the dynamics of A's as I tried to understand it all and work towards healing the gaping hole in my heart.
AP asked one day when we bumped into each other
47yo MW in 15month
Life is too Short ... A. since Mar 29th 2009
Happy- you and I are similar.
Im a 44yo MW with 44 yo H, whom I love dearly and we have agreat life. Yes after 21 years marriage and 4 kids, romance, sex and excitement have been missing for some time.
Enter AP 15mths ago. 40yo, in long erm relationship (7yrs) with his partner. two kids.
Our A was hot and fantasic first few months. Intense, I Love You's, talk of future- all just so wonderful.
He has MAJOR issues with A's. His Mum left his Dad when he was 19 after it was discoverd she had a 4yr affair. She has been married to her AP for 20 years now. Plus his first wife left him after she had an affair (also been married to him since then- 10 yrs). So my AP is affair phobic and hates that he is now the person IN an affair.
Needless to say these issues have come up since our A started and he has broken it off twice. First time he was begging me to take him back within 24hrs, second time he wanted us to be more FWB's than lovers. I agreed but happily the A is almost exactly the same as it was before but he forbids any talk of emotions/feelings or future.
So here's the rub- I am a cake eater- I never want to leave my H. Im not silly enough to think that AP would be a good life partner for me- he is pretty selfish and self focussed- I suffer from depression and my dear husband is very tolerant!
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