time to get serious or its gonna be over

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-11-2009
time to get serious or its gonna be over
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Mon, 01-04-2010 - 12:06am

Well, I think I have finally got it set in my head where the line in the sand is going to be.

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Tue, 01-05-2010 - 11:34pm

"Yes, people fall in love when they least expect it... and yes, sometimes that means you realize that you are married to the wrong person."

true true. i think that is how my x-mm felt. that he was married to the wrong person.

k2002
k2002
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Tue, 01-05-2010 - 11:40pm

"but i also agree that men do leave their wives."

yea man, i know that some men leave their wives although some people would want us to believe that they don't. i have seen a post on here -"MM don't leave their wives." it was on here a long time and i think i responded but i notice that it is now back on the front page like somebody else responded again.

k2002
k2002
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Sat, 01-09-2010 - 10:37pm
"they leave at any time...6 mos...4 years, 2 mos and after 20 years of being in an affair..it depends on the man...and if they want to leave...everyone is different.." true. it DEFINITELY DEPENDS ON THE MAN.
k2002
k2002
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Registered: 10-01-2009
Sat, 01-16-2010 - 7:13pm

You story sounds very similar to mine except that we have known each other far longer, and had an EA for 2 years, and a PA for the past 6 months.

My divorce is also in the works, already filed. The only part where the facts differ is that he's trying to find an escape route where he can take his kids with him. He says if it weren't for them, he'd already be gone. That's great. I love so much about him because of the kind of father he is. But, I don't want to continue living separate lives on the weekends.

He tells me that his biggest fear is that I won't be there for him when he finally takes action because I will get impatient. But he won't give me an sense of when I will see the closure of his marriage. And of course it makes me weary that he won't ask me to wait, or even not to see others. I know why he won't ask, because he knows I will tell him he has no right to ask. But at the same time, it makes me feel like he is indifferent.

I know him very, very well. He isn't indifferent. In fact, I believe he loves me more than any person he has ever loved. But the waiting is killing me. I do not intend to spend another winter holiday season alone. Those holidays are just too big and too long for this. UGH.

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