Time to lay it on the table?

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Registered: 01-24-2004
Time to lay it on the table?
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Mon, 05-10-2004 - 12:26pm
I have been thinking about ending A. I can't keep playing these roller coaster rides with my emotions.

Last week, everything was great. OM talked about leaving his gf of 3 years and has been paying more attention to me. This past weekend he was with gf and said he would call at some point and never did.

Today he has been emailing me and seems to have taken on the "friend" roll again. I have fallen in love with this man and can't keep doing this to myself.

Should I just lay it on the table for him and go from there or am I overreacting?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2003
Mon, 05-10-2004 - 12:34pm
i see red flags honey. run away from this man, don't walk. sounds very passive aggresive to me - switching between friends and lovers. not good at all in my opinion. you deserve much more than that, don't settle for less.
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Registered: 12-31-2003
Mon, 05-10-2004 - 12:37pm
My personal opinion is to lay it on the table and tell him how you feel, be upfront about your feelings, because you would want hin to be upfront with his, (whether he's doing it or not) I truly sympathize with you because im totally going threw the whole emotional roller coaster. Oh one question? if he left his gf, would you too be togetheir, I mean would you leave whom ever your with, if he wanted to start a serious relationship with you?
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Registered: 01-24-2004
Mon, 05-10-2004 - 12:49pm
I would leave my bf of 5 years in a heartbeat! Me and my current bf have become extremely distant with each other to the point where I barely see him and stuff.

I think I am going to lay it all out in the open. I don't expect him to leave his gf so I am going to assume that by me laying it all out, our A will end. Its going to be hard to be "just friends" because everytime I will talk to him, its just going to hurt.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-23-2004
Mon, 05-10-2004 - 1:43pm
You are in a great position, being neither one of you are married.

Your in an entirely different category as we married people.

You are also at an ADVANTAGE..you have the option of staying with

your bf or finding someone who truly deserves you.

You do not see your BF much anyway, go for it girl.....go out and

meet some wonderful man, deserving of you and you alone.

Do not play 2nd fiddle to your new bf, have confidence in yourself

and do not let him think you are waiting for his calls.

Like one of our men on our posts told me......there is nothing

more desirable and sexy than a women with confidence, and a

great smile, and remember to be yourself.


Bunny



iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2004
Mon, 05-10-2004 - 4:38pm

These A's suck! I'm on the verge of ending it myself.


These men get cocky and arrogant. All this past week he has been a real jerk to me because he knows how much

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2003
Mon, 05-10-2004 - 4:39pm
amen gf!! I did already. we are finito, adios amigo....
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2004
Mon, 05-10-2004 - 5:12pm
(((Honda))) My heart goes out to you. I could have written your post! My OM does the same thing, and I am wondering the same thing. I don't have any real advice, except to stay strong, and to do what ultimately makes *you* happy. If you do decide to lay it out on the table, be prepared for any and every answer he might give. Take care of yourself, and keep us posted! :)

((hugs))

Circe