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| Mon, 09-22-2003 - 12:59pm |
Do any of you ever get tired of the "waiting" game and the whining of how miserable they are but do not want to do anything to change?? I am feeling that right now. Hoe do you deal with it, I love him but sometimes I wonder if it is worth all the BS that goes with it>
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| Mon, 09-22-2003 - 2:46pm |
Oh god I SO know what you mean. My MM has been telling me for two years now that he is leaving. And it has been HELL. Me and the wife have had converstations (which was really stupid on my part because all she did say anything it took to run me off). Now it's just a big game between her and I. It's ridiculous. This man took me on when I was pregnant with my ex boyfriend's baby. Now he is that baby's legal father. He signed her birth certificate. He is with me M-F, he wakes up with me in the morning and puts his same clothes back on and goes home (AN HOUR AWAY) to get ready for work. On the weekends, (when he's off of work) he goes home to be there for the kids so she can work. It eats me alive for those two nights that he is away from me. She found out that I have the passcode to his pager's VM so now she leaves all of these stupid "I love you" messages just to get at me. But sometimes, I have to wonder if they really are for me. Recently, I broke up with him for about a month and a half because I just couldn't take it anymore. I walked into this relationship with the promise from him that he would get out of that marriage. She had an ongoing 2 year affair in which she involved thier son and when I met him, he had just given up on trying with her and decided he didn't want to be there. The only thing that was stopping him from leaving then was the kids and legalities. So when I felt like he wasn't ever going to do it, I completely detached myself from him in every way. Well, in the meantime, he would call periodically and tell me that he put his house and property up for sale. When it sells he said he's out of there. So after I did some checking, (like checked MLS for the listing of his house and saw it was up for sale) and saw some truth in what he was telling me, I went back because of course I love him so much and the heartache is hell. Now, the current offer on his house is up as of tomorrow 9/23/03 and either way, he said that if the guy doesn't buy his property he will still leave. He says that he can't continue to put us through this and he is ready to move on with this. So I guess we'll see. Meanwhile, his stupid wife is still leaving those I love you messages and it just makes me want to jump through the phone. We fight all the time about his marriage but somehow we manage to stay together. To answer your question, if you have the strength to get out of that relationship please do it now. But if you love him and you think he is worth it then fight for it. BUT GOD IT'S SO HARD!!!!
| Mon, 09-22-2003 - 7:13pm |
My situation is tough, nt sure if you have read my previous posts but my A is with my XH the father of my daughter, so it is not like I can have NC. He is a part of our life forever. He is living with an older wealthy women who he is now financially dependant on, I feel he should file bamkruptcy he makes great money he just needs to get rid of his "toys" he tells me he is afraid because we split up from me cheating on him he said he just needs to see if he can get over his fear of giving his heart to me again and getting it ripped out. RIGHT now we have made the final date 11/15. I told him I WILL NOT Soend the holiday salone again. So we shall see, sometimes I wonder if I CAN GET PAST IT, I feel like this is my payback!
| Mon, 09-22-2003 - 8:15pm |
I hear ya. Yeah whats up with the whining anyway? Its always them and their feelings. What about us? Where do we go and tell our problems? Can't tell the H and can't tell them. How do I deal, somedays I don't deal well at all and other days I just ignore. Is it worth it, I don't know... Only time will tell.
