This is too freaky
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| Fri, 05-21-2004 - 7:04pm |
Less than 30 minutes ago, I received an email from MM, he said he was sorry he didn't get a chance to contact me today, just trying to focus on getting the project out by 6 today. He said his W (who is clingy and demanding beyond words) called him at 10 and said she was driving downtown so he could take her out to lunch. Now, I'm assuming she knew of this project and deadline, but chose to "tell him" they were going to lunch together. He said he was really sorry, but just couldn't get away for lunch. She hung up on him, then proceeded to call back to fight.......calling a total of 14 times before he told her he had to shut off the phone and focus on the project. Can you even believe this woman?
In his email he also said, "I'm so down right now, I have to go home, but I don't want to...even to see my baby and that makes me so sick. I wish I could just sit with you somewhere and talk, I always feel so good after we meet. If you can, if you are free, can we chat on line tonight, I miss you."
Now after four months, I don't think we are picking up each other's vibes, but it seems a little too odd.

Circe
I really don't like this. Have the same thing in my marriage, "I'll be there, then H never shows up."
I feel angry after just reading your last post. I am sure he could have found five minutes to log on in the last two days to just let you know what's going on and that he wouldn't be able to talk. There is just no excuse to leave you hanging like this. It is incredibly rude!
My MM has left me hanging with NC when I expected a quick call from him for at most a full day, and I make sure he knows I am angry and feel that it is uncalled for. Wife or no wife, there's always time to get away at some point during the day if they really want to and leave the quickest of messages that just says, "sorry, tied up, thinking of you" by email, text msg, or voice mail. I'm sure the W isn't tied to their hip ALL day. There's always laundry, cleaning, shopping, yardwork, calling family, cooking, showering and other bathroom time, etc. to occupy her time, isn't there? I know I'm busier than heck and couldn't always know what my H is up to at every moment of the day if I had one....
Sorry for ranting, I guess this hits a nerve :). Sorry he's being inconsiderate of you, I know it sucks.
Brin
I have often felt that same way. There HAS to be 5 min here or there where he could call or drop an email! One time I was coming home from the office and he was coming in the other direction (stopped at a red light) and he was just looking out the window not on the phone, and no one else in the car. Now I had called him that morning and left a vm to call me and there he was....not calling when he appeared to have the time! It dawned on me though when I had a particularly busy week for me that even though he was obviously idle, I am sure he had a lot of other things on his mind. The man goes practically 24/7 and I am sure he has a lot more things on his mind then to call his oversexed gf when he probably needed to hash out some co. problem in his head during a rare idle moment!
So I guess I am adjusting to my mm's harried life and becoming more understanding. I don't know about anyone elses' mm just mine but I thought that I would add another aspect to the situation to think about
Hope everyone is having a good weekend.... June 1 mm goes away for 2 weeks... not much longer :(
dd
But I constantly rationalize my MM in my head. "I know he's busy. He has things that come up in the middle of the day." Crap if my DH says these things to me I JUST DON'T CARE! That's where I over react and analize the relationship too much. It's good sometimes to take it for what it is, and EMA.
That's where I think he can draw the line and I can't, don't, or choose not to. I know he cares deeply for me, but sometimes that's when I jump on that roller coaster of emotions emotions and he won't....
jen
Someone smack me! I should have known the way his W is, this was the problem. Next time I need to take a deep breath before I get angry. SO glad I didn't get angry, and email something I would regret.
I'm such a dope sometimes!