Totally confused...help

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Registered: 05-02-2003
Totally confused...help
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Mon, 09-15-2003 - 5:41pm
I have got this unbelievable crush on my husband's best friend. We are totally sexually attracted to each other. This weekend the three of us went out and I got his ear for a brief moment and I asked him when we were going to get together and he said he didn't know. I asked him what was wrong and he said he is scared of getting caught. It seems like everytime my husband turns around he is trying to get my attention or slip me a kiss or a feel. All I can think about is getting into bed with this man. He told me this weekend that he feels terrible that he is doing this. He's said that he is married and this is his best friend's wife (he added...i don't know why...that i was hot) which made me feel great. But later on that evening he was all over me again. I really want to get together, but I don't know what to do anymore. I know he is freaking out because he is feeling like this. I can just tell when I see him. It sucks to have a crush when your crush is scared to take the next step. Oh yeah!! and why do I feel like this so badly. I am married and don't have those feeling for my husband anymore. this really stinks.
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Registered: 09-04-2003
Mon, 09-15-2003 - 6:19pm
I don't know what to tell you. That's a place I never want to go. If you are caught, being his friend and all, your om that is, all H*ll will break loose. I'm not telling you what to do or if it's right or wrong, just that I'd think before you leap into this one. Are the risks worth what could happen to you both if caught? If you think that they are then go for it. I don't blame him for being scared. I'd probably flirt and do nothing more, that's just too close to home for my taste. But that's just my opinion, too chicken for that. : )