A tough day....

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A tough day....
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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 10:46am
I am having a bad day and feeling down. I got short with OM on the phone this morning, giving him a hard time when he wanted to get off so he could get some work done. I miss him when we aren't together and we have had very limited time together since he transferred offices so when he wanted to get off the phone this morning I got irritated because I miss him. I really want to see him but I don't know when I'll be able to with our schedules both being so full right now. This is so hard sometimes!

Soleil

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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 10:49am
Welcome, soleil to the board.

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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 10:54am
Soleil-

I'm feeling your pain right now. It's hard to not be with them. I don't know your whole story, but I'm one of the singles...and a newbie. It's very hard to know that they have so much more going on than we do.

I wish I could tell you it's all going to be okay, but I won't be that naive. I will tell you that I know that our mm do care about us, even if they tick us off sometimes.

I'm having a tough day as well. Haven't talked to mine since yesterday evening. He didn't call this morning, like he usually does. Lately I get the impression he's feeling guilty, but doesn't really want to tell me. He knows this would hurt me, and he doesn't want to do that. But I wish he would at least talk to me.

Hang in there...I got snippy with P last week, simply out of frustration, and he didn't worry anything about it.

BIG HUG to you!!!

LM227

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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 11:03am
Good morning Soleil. I'm sorry you had such a bad start to the day. I know how that feels. But don't beat yourself up. People who care about each other sometimes have disagreements. He knows this and I'm sure it doesn't change how he feels about you at all. In fact, odds are the next time you talk it will all be water under the bridge. I do understand how it feels, though, when you have limited time together. You want to keep everything positive because that may be the only chance you get to make your impression for the day. Just relax and be yourself. It is you he cares about. I'm sure he knows that everyone has days where they don't want to let go. I'm sure everything will be fine. I hope your day gets better.
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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 11:24am
I'm so sorry you are hurting. It isn't an easy situation. If it is any consulation, I have been short with my OM too. We worked together and even shared an office and then he went to a different division in another state. So we went from seeing each other almost daily to who knows when. I was extremely upset and not so nice to him in the first few weeks after he left because I would want to tell him stuff and he was too busy at the new job to talk. We have been trying to work it out, but the contact isn't nearly what I would like it to be. It is very frustrating.
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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 1:32pm
Thanks NRY, I need to work on that too...I try to give him space but sometimes I'm not so good at it. I guess I am not as good at will-power as I though.

Soleil

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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 1:35pm
Good Lord....I'm horrible at willpower, too!
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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 1:40pm
Thanks, LM227. My OM is single, I am married. We worked in the same office until a few weeks ago, when he transferred to a different office. Now I rarely get to see him and it's so hard somedays. I guess I just need to learn to deal since Summer is busy work season for us and it's only going to get harder to get together.

Soleil

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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 1:42pm
Thanks, Omaha. I sent him a text message and apologized...he accepted and all is well again. Hopefully tonight we'll be able to get together for a little bit tonight and he can give me a nice warm hug and make me forget all about feeling down. Thanks again.

Soleil

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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 1:46pm
Thanks trpl777, we're OK now...I text messaged him and apologized and he accepted but yet it is hard especially when you're so used to seeing each other on a very regular basis and then go to seeing each other very rarely. I guess we'll adjust to it but for now I miss him so.

Soleil

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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 1:57pm
Soleil-

P is an accountant, so the last 4 months have been hell. However, he's always made time for me. I have been crying for about the last hour though, because he hasn't called today, and also hasn't responded to my e-mail I sent him this morning. He started getting a guilty conscience yesterday, but considering we haven't slept together yet, I don't feel like he's got much to feel guilty about. He went through this a few months ago, after he kissed me for the first time. But he got over it in a few days. I'm just about to come out of my skin right now, though, because I'm worried that he will feel so guilty that he will end our A, even though he's miserable at home. He and W haven't slept in the same bed since she got pregnant over a year ago. If something is going on that is making him upset, I just wish he would talk to me about it. I hate being in the dark, and I hate not knowing when/if I'm going to hear from him, especially since he's been so consistent for the last 7+ months.

Sorry, I'm rambling, but I'm tired of crying and had to get it all out. Thanks for listening. I'm hoping both our mm's come around today and make us feel appreciated, especially yours. You sound like you need it.

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