WOW! It sounded like you were writing my story with everything except the virgin part. I was with my AP for 2 years. Then broke things off. After 14 months of NC, we reconnected, but just as friends in the beginning. After 6 months or so of just hanging out, it went further. I've now been involved with him again for over a year and I can't get him out of my mind. We NEVER talk about his other life and I wonder what that is all about. I know I should get out and try to find a man I can fully call my own, but I'm not there.
Hang in there. I know it's hard. I'm here to listen whenever. I would never judge you.
Hi! It's late where I am and I'm about to go to sleep, but I just wanted to respond to this. You're not alone. I'm here to listen if you need it. It's a horrible feeling to want to share all these feelings but not be able to since you're in an A. This way we can do it anonymously and safely.
it is very difficult to be in a tight situation. it is like a person wanting something/ someone badly, reachable but far, dangling carrot thing. Sometimes wanting/ needing badly gets you more obsessed as time goes by, but sometimes time let it pass. for you to know what to do, first know the consequences before you follow your heart. going over the hump is very difficult but once you do, it is more difficult and more complicated. @ present, your only consideration is should i or should i not? In case you chose i should not - life will be simpler (you need other person's help with this to divert attention) In case you chose i will - there will be hundreds of IFs that will follow, Future will definitely be obscured, life will be more unsure. I'm a MM mad with a painful EA @ present, as a friend, i will advise not to go thru the pain and uncertainty, I was happy, yes but with it comes sacrifices. It is confusing to decide but it is more confusing after you decided because whatever result will not only affect you as i always said"AP 's happiness from EA comes at the expense of someone else's"
WOW! It sounded like you were writing my story with everything except the virgin part. I was with my AP for 2 years. Then broke things off. After 14 months of NC, we reconnected, but just as friends in the beginning. After 6 months or so of just hanging out, it went further. I've now been involved with him again for over a year and I can't get him out of my mind. We NEVER talk about his other life and I wonder what that is all about. I know I should get out and try to find a man I can fully call my own, but I'm not there.
Hang in there. I know it's hard. I'm here to listen whenever. I would never judge you.
Hi! It's late where I am and I'm about to go to sleep, but I just wanted to respond to this. You're not alone. I'm here to listen if you need it. It's a horrible feeling to want to share all these feelings but not be able to since you're in an A. This way we can do it anonymously and safely.
I'm here!
it is like a person wanting something/ someone badly, reachable but far, dangling carrot thing.
Sometimes wanting/ needing badly gets you more obsessed as time goes by, but sometimes time let it pass.
for you to know what to do, first know the consequences before you follow your heart. going over the hump is very difficult but once you do, it is more difficult and more complicated.
@ present, your only consideration is should i or should i not? In case you chose i should not - life will be simpler (you need other person's help with this to divert attention)
In case you chose i will - there will be hundreds of IFs that will follow, Future will definitely be obscured, life will be more unsure.
I'm a MM mad with a painful EA @ present, as a friend, i will advise not to go thru the pain and uncertainty, I was happy, yes but with it comes sacrifices.
It is confusing to decide but it is more confusing after you decided because whatever result will not only affect you
as i always said"AP 's happiness from EA comes at the expense of someone else's"
Thank you so much Indecent...it is so nice to get some insight into someone on the other side of the relationship.