Tried to end it but could not ....

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Registered: 11-17-2009
Tried to end it but could not ....
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Sat, 04-24-2010 - 8:08pm

Hi,


I am back here on this board.

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Sat, 04-24-2010 - 8:25pm
Flylady, you are welcome to stay here and get the support you need. :-) NC is probably the best way to end an affair, physical or emotional, but you're not ready to do that yet. We all have to do what we can when we can. I do think there are cases of ex APs staying friends and not going back to an affair, but they always have somewhat of an EA I think, which is still detrimental in many ways. But if this EA is adding to your life and you don't want to give it up, you are an adult who makes decisions for herself. Post here any time.

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Sat, 04-24-2010 - 8:56pm

I just wanted to post to say I can relate. I'm A MW with a xap that by all standards the EAS'ers would say I'm in a EA with. But I dont feel that way. The PA part of the A ended almost a year ago and I have not seen him in person in just as long, but we still Chat online once or twice a week. Not about anything important just chat. The reason I ended the PA not once, but twice was because I was getting way to emotional about him. We have had a lot of talks, fights, and NC up to now. But I think if I said yes lets try the PA again he just might say yes, but honestly I like the friendship the way it is. I would also say I think of him as a Best Friend, he knows a lot about me.

I would also like to add, that I have a new AP, well I have replaced XP like 3 times now. But that's for a different post. I realize that I'm just filling the void over and over but when I'm ready I will have quite a story for the EAS board. But for now, I lurk, trying to get support from here and EAS.

So, after all that.lol My feeling is if you can handle the friendship with you XP/AP and not feel like your on a roller coaster then, let him be your friend and you be his. I know, I know, that's not the smartest thing but only you know what you can handle and only you know when its time to start NC.