The trouble with MM loving his W too...

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Registered: 08-14-2003
The trouble with MM loving his W too...
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Fri, 11-07-2003 - 1:30pm
So my H is working all night, which would make it very convenient for MM and I to get together after work. When I mention the scenario I've concocted, which is that MM tell his W that he's going to our local pro basketball team's home game tonight, he tells me that they have plans.

I understand that he has commitments to his family and that yes, he still "goes out on dates" with his W. And I really do understand why I can't come first. But I want

to just scream, "Seeing ME should be most important!!" And the knowledge that I'm being petty and completely selfish is eating me up even more than the actual situation.

It's not fair. And right now I just don't feel like being rational and mature. I'm going to go wallow in self-pity now, and then I'll get over it and be back to my usual self. Good thing I'm a smoker, lol....my temporary fix! Sigh.

 

ItalianPisces

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-07-2003 - 2:19pm
hey pisces -- i know what you mean about wasted opportunities with MM, but you do know that it would be suspicious if he changed his plans at the last minute. if he was just going home, maybe he could be "working late" or something. but when plans have been made, it almost not worth the aggravation and arguing that will ensure to change them.

sorry you're not happy and feel free to wallow in self-pity. better yet, have a pity party for yourself and smoke alot!!

cheer up honey. MM will be back around soon.

gurl

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Registered: 08-23-2003
Fri, 11-07-2003 - 5:03pm
I hate when that happens. It's a ugly feeling. And it makes you wonder why would he ever pick his w. over you. I've had many a talk with my girlfriend about that. I don't like it either and I'm on the top of the list when it comes to self pity. It's funny. I don't remember ever feeling so much like that before, but that's the thing about A's. When they're good they're great, but when they're bad, they're disastrous.

He has to go. He has no choice sometimes. He has to keep her happy. He has to keep her happy and things normal so he can be with you too. You know about her. She doesn't know about you! She was already in the picture! You weren't so it's easier to tell you no. It's not fair and, yes, dam him for ever picking the W. I mean, you would think that would be the point of the A., but that's just how things are when he loves both.