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| Sun, 05-02-2010 - 4:17am |
My wife had a fling with a male at work, this was before i met her, now he is txting her, she told me that he visited her parents house, and they would go to her bedroom to "chat " when they could have sat in the dining room or lounge, but she told me that they got up to certain things ahem, he has been txting her asking to meet up again, she said that she is allowed to have male friends, oh yes he was married when he went ot her house years ago, and still is married with two kids, she keeps her phone with her at all times, and has received txt messages at late hours, when i asked who were they from she said a female friend, but i saw they were from him, what do i do, ignore the txts, trust her, she has cheated before and i caught her out, even though she denied it i had the proof, she eventually gave in and told me all about the affair, we have two gorgeous kids, im walking on glass every time i bring him up, whats a guy to do ? advice sought please x

Are you in the right place paulanthony? This is MAS - my affair support - for people who are in affairs or thinking about being in affairs. It's not for betrayed spouses or people on other sides of the affair equation, although there are boards where you can seek advice from the "other side", this is not one of them.
First, here is the betrayed spouses support group - I think they can help with your question:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rladultery
Second, here is a topic called "Life after Betrayal". If you scroll down, there is a folder called "support from both sides" where you can actually ask people from both sides of affairs for advice.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlhealingaft
I'm so sorry you are going through this, and you don't have to do it alone. Both of those topics have caring people who can help you with your questions and help you get through it all and decide what to do!
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