Trust Issues

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2008
Trust Issues
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Fri, 05-15-2009 - 3:41pm

Haven't been on the board recently but I've been involved with a MM that I met online since February. He told me this week he seldom gets on the computer anymore so I checked his profile to see if he had been online recently and he had. He's been on the site other times since we met. We never "said" we were exclusive but he has been calling me his girlfriend and talking about leaving his wife in September and wants us to be together then. Says he even requested a job transfer because I said I wouldn't leave my kids to relocate close to him. I told him I needed time to think.

He emailed me at lunch when he saw I hadn't sent an email this morning or called at lunch like he always wants me to do. We talk everyday at lunch and after work. He said he didn't get any sleep last night for thinking over things and that he realized I said I needed time to think but that he didn't work like that. I emailed him back and then he emailed me and said he couldn't continue like this when I didn't trust him and that if I could trust him later then maybe we could continue then. He said he misses me and I miss him. I'm so confused over what I should do...Should I give him another chance like he asked last night, is it too late for that, or does he deserve another chance?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
In reply to: addicted2mya
Sat, 05-16-2009 - 12:52pm
I am SW with a MM.My AP was going to file for D but few weeks before he could,our A was discovered by W.Now things have changed a lot.Only that we make our meetings very discreet and are very careful.My AP is giving his M another chance( on W's request and basically killing some time to prove that the M is beyond repair).I trust my AP and he has gained my trust over the last year.
Only you know if you can trust your AP by giving him another chance.