Trusting intuition???

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Registered: 09-20-2003
Trusting intuition???
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Sun, 11-23-2003 - 11:34am
I've heard so many times "trust your intuition" or "follow your gut instinct" and normally I agree completely. Now, here's the strange situation:

I took a day off work last week and MM came over to visit. Naturally things ended up in bed (not that I'm complaining). Afterwards when we were getting dressed I had this intuitive thought that was so strong I almost started crying. It screamed at me "that was the last time you will be with him." I dismissed it as ridiculous because there is no indication that things are coming to an end. Later in the day we had lunch together and the following day we met for coffee. Everything appears normal. And even this weekend, when I know it is difficult for him to contact me with his family home, I've received two emails. However, I can't shake the feeling that I won't be intimate with him again. Am I being paranoid or what?

Thanks for listening,

Annika

Brightest Blessings, Annika


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Registered: 04-03-2003
Sun, 11-23-2003 - 2:32pm
i think this a very interesting thread. i always have believed strongly in my intuition. Not to say it's never wrong, but i figure, it's got to be there for a reason. Us women have "women's intuition" for a reason. i'll even admit most of the reason i am waiting out MM's fence sitting is because i have such a strong feeling that i am meant to be with him, and something is telling me to hang in there. i knew before i met him that something big was going to happen between us.

Sometimes though, our fears can play into our intuition. Maybe that's what's happening in your case. Or maybe your intuition is telling you about somnething a little further in the future then you originally thought. Maybe it was telling you it was going to be awhile before you would make love again, although there wouldn't necessarilly be any fights or break ups.

My only advice it to talk with you MM about it. i tell mine about my "feelings" constantly, he understands. Otherwise, accept that maybe this time your intuition is wrong, or slightly "off". Don't let it ruin the communication you would normally enjoy w/ MM.

Good luck

jen

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 12:44pm
hey annika, i agree with jen, you should just talk about your "feeling" with your MM. don't cry or rant, just let him know you're feeling a little bit uneasy and let him reassure you. that may be all you need!

good luck,

gurl

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Registered: 09-20-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 11:49pm
Gurl and Jen,

Thanks for bringing me back down a few notches on the paranoia scale. MM and I spent the afternoon together and yep, my fears had gotten the best of me over the weekend. We are actually doing just fine.

But it is interesting how sometimes that intuitive feeling can just be off. In this case, I'm really glad it was.

Annika (who is still smiling over how thoughtful her MM can be at times)

Brightest Blessings, Annika


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Registered: 11-15-2003
Tue, 11-25-2003 - 12:01am
WOW! funny you should bring this up! I had one of those moments last week myself with MM! I just felt like everything was changing and we weren't going to 'be' anymore. I did get up the courage to talk to him about it though and he just said, "You worry too much, thats never going to happen!" LOL Well, obviously there was more to the conversation than JUST that... anyhow, with the holidays coming up, he did point out that 'time together' would be more limited for both of us and thats probably what I am feeling right now. And hes right! I have a lot of activities coming up that can't include him and vice versa. So, I am just going to wait and see what the New Year brings. Perhaps thats what you are feeling too??? the crunch of the holiday season?

HTH

Tam

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 11-25-2003 - 11:48am
hey annika, i'm so glad your intuition was just a bit off, aren't you?!

and congrats to your MM for making you feel so much better without putting you down for your feelings. he's a pretty sensitive guy!

take care,

gurl