try ppl being mean to me no supported

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Registered: 12-04-2003
try ppl being mean to me no supported
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Thu, 12-18-2003 - 9:29am
come here for supported most girls here so great to me and help me.but getting tried ppl hurting me i do know what happen between me and mm or special man.never in my life have ever hurt anyone always nice to ppl.and special man knows what has happen between us come here to get supported but get is ppl making fun of me saying that nothing has happen between us.my friend knows what has happen between us he done this before when kiss me first time he pull away from me but came back.really hurting over this but seem no one cares that lm hurting here. you girls know who are been great to me been my friend big hugs to you all.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 2:04pm
I don't think anyone was surprised when you first posted about Tony only caring for you as a daughter. It does not really matter what you think or believe happened in the past because he has told you how he feels and it is the present that you must deal with. I'm sure everyone is sorry for your pain, but you have a life to live and you must live it with him only as a friend or father-figure. Have a good cry and bout of self-pity--then get going in a forward, positive direction. Continually thinking about what was, could have been, might have been etc. will get you nowhere. You are a nice young woman with a loving family--get out there, meet other singles your age, join some social groups, go to church and meet people there--you will never be happy if you keep living in the past and wanting something that will never be yours. Lily
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Registered: 09-19-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 3:23pm
Kim,

I agree with Lilly. You are not getting the support you want because many people are sick and tiried of hearing your same story over and over again. People feel sorry for you because you continue to moon over a man and a situation that happened years, and years ago. Time to let it go, get some counsiling, and move on. You have many years ahead of you, make them count. Make them important. Tony has proven how he feels now, he may have felt different back then, but he not longer does. Just let this ghost go, and find your own happiness without him in it. You need to do this for you. Until you decide to change your life and let this memory go, it will only haunt you. I know this is not what you want to here, so you will continue to ignore me and others out there, but we are not attacking you,just trying to reach out and get you to realize there is more out there for you then Tony or that SG of yours.

Shy

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Registered: 12-04-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 3:54pm
hi lily lm trying but so hard and hurts so much he lead me on for so many years.if he just love like a daughter all these years he should told me i would been fine about it.he should never touch me and love me kiss me way he did.tell me what lm suppose to think when takes me in arms and holds me agsint his body and loving me he had his hands all over me.you don't love your daughter that way but he did show me love that way all the time not way love your daughter.alot things he said to me which wrong for him to say to me.on top all this i have bad cold i cna't get rid of and going holiday again next wed for christmas. thanks again lily hugs kim
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 4:25pm
Yes, I understand that you feel he led you on, but the bottom line is that now you KNOW that it's over--he doesn't feel any love for you other than the daughter of good friends. Fretting over it and going over it again & again doesn't change anything and holds you back. Now if you want to wallow in it and have a life-long pity party, that's your choice--but you can't expect the posters here to be supportive of an attitude like that. Many of us have been thru horrendous things that have changed our lives, but there is some truth to the old saying about making lemonade out of lemons. Now is a great time to sit and count your blessings, the many positive things that I know you have in your life. And if you are still unhappy about what-might-have-been, then nobody can do anything about but YOU. Have a great holiday with your family, then come back and tell us what you are doing to get out there and change your life and put your feelings about Tony away, a memory. I think you'll find the posters here to be a lot more supportive if you do that. Hugs, Lily
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Registered: 05-17-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 4:41pm
I think you are both you and Shy are correct in what is being said to Kim. Unfortunatly I have been lurking around for months and everytime I read a post from Kim its the same story. The sad part is that when someone does tell her the truth and she does not like what that person has to say she thinks they are picking on her and she contiues to ignore them. How about those ladys on the abuse board. She has most of them thinking she was abused too. Sad, very sad.

T

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Registered: 12-04-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 4:52pm
hi dear sorry you don't think i was abuse but i was by my X-SG he hurt me all the time and hit me to.wonder why you don't think i wasn't abuse and hurt by single guy he treated bad sorry but he did.about mm yes i do knwo what i have to do to get on with my life by way i put all pictures of us away to hard to look at now.wonder have you ever been abuse by man before or have ever had affair with a mm. tony not first married man.their was never mm in my life when alot younger.
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 6:08pm
Kim, Why dont you go out and fined

a mm so you can have something in

common with the rest of us? Then we

will gladly include you in our conversations.

Get over it or you are going to continue

to be one lonely lady!

Sorry to be so harsh but ENOUGH IS ENOUGH ALREADY!
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Registered: 05-17-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 6:29pm
Yes Kim for your information I was involved with a MM and I to am married. My involvement with this man is no longer and I have moved on with my life. When everything ended I went over to the "Ending Board". I have rebuilt my marraige and it is stronger then ever. Would I change anything I did.........no. It made me a stronger person, who learned to take control of her life. I worked on making things at home work for both of us and our children.

Now the situation about abuse, no. Thank God I have never had to go through what those ladies on the other board have. I read over your stories and for crying out loud the your SG smacked your hand while loading things into a car and imediatly said how sorry he was. About the case of verbal abuse, based on what I have read from you over the years and after your claims on how he hit you, I doubt he really was verbally abusive. But that is JMO, to which I am entitled. You sound like a lonely lady that needs to give all this a rest for your own sake. There are things you can do to keep busy that would be helpful to others. Go and volunteer your time at a womans shelter and then see what life is really like for them and their children. Before you ask if I have, the answer is yes. So we will not go there. I have read that other feel the same as I do but I felt it was time for me to open my mouth and agree.

Hope you look for help outside of this forum. There must be other boards you can join on here that would keep you busy. Good luck to you, you need it.

T

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 7:00pm
HI .. i am fairly new here but I have been reading your posts for about a month.I am sorry that you feel hurt by your sg and your mm, but there comes a point in everyones life where they must deal with it and move on.I am sorry that you don't feel you are getting the support that you need but until you help yourself.. .no one can help you.If this sounds harsh I am very sorry

Good luck And Have A Greatr Chrismas

SB

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