Trying to Avoid Another D-Day

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Trying to Avoid Another D-Day
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Wed, 08-04-2010 - 10:46pm

I think H is one step shy of going off the deep end.


He came over this afternoon so that we could "settle things once and for all", so I knew before he got there it wasn't going to be good.

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Wed, 08-04-2010 - 10:55pm
OMG!
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Wed, 08-04-2010 - 11:02pm

Thanks alive!


I asked AP about telling her himself, and he said absolutely not.

anotherseyes

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Wed, 08-04-2010 - 11:27pm

First of all Angelina - you don't know the whole story here...why don't you go back and read it...and then come and comment on the post.


AE - I am so sorry that you STBXH is doing this. At this point it sounds as though he is determind that AP suffers as much as he is...and he thinks that the way to do that is to out him to his W. As irrational as that may be...because it won't ease his pain at all...it is what he feels.


You have managed to (hopefully) stop it this time. But you are not around him 24/7 and there is no way to monitor what he does - so it is very possible that he is going to accomplish it the next time.

I realize that AP's focus is his son - and the time he has with him. But he is going to have to consider the very likely scenario that his W will find out about this - and that she will leave. Maybe it's time for him to talk to a lawyer, and get some advice about custody issues so that IF this happens, he is prepared.

I'm so sorry - take care

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 12:02am

You've been reading here for ages, is that right?

anotherseyes

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 12:04am

Thanks LouLou!


It's been an awful night!

anotherseyes

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 12:17am

Oh AE we (meaning the MASers who are on the board for the right reasons and not to stupidly say things they know nothing about) are here for you!!!


You are well supported by us, AP and others who love you. Yes its sad for everyone involved and I dont imagine to belittle your H's pain for one second. But yes when you have repeatedly tried to fix a M and it cant be fixed, people fall into other R's. Your H is in pain, but you have been too.


Now what did AP say to your H? What a conversation that would be.


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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 12:57am

Angelina - based on your other post (Obligation), it sounds like you are a BS and not currently involved in an A.

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 1:54am

Oh boy!

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 5:25am

Your AP might as well let his wife know the truth. She will find out soon and it would be better coming for your AP then your husband.


His marriage cant handle it???????? Obviously its crap to begin with so what difference does it make??? The wife WILL find out...that's a guarantee




Edited 8/5/2010 5:28 am ET by brfl2009
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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 7:14am
I'm sorry this is happening another. But it sounds as if your H is determined to tell your AP's W and he might as well accept that. I really don't know how he can prevent it forever. But I'm so sorry it's come to this.

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