Trying to Avoid Another D-Day
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Trying to Avoid Another D-Day
| Wed, 08-04-2010 - 10:46pm |
I think H is one step shy of going off the deep end.
He came over this afternoon so that we could "settle things once and for all", so I knew before he got there it wasn't going to be good.

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Hi another,
Big hugs to you at a time when you must be feeling awfully stressed. I had a feeling that your STBXH would do something like this after his angry outburst at weekend. I agree with Jane that there is not much you can do to stop him, you have to let AP deal with this You have got enough stress without having to worry about his as well.
I am really sorry that it has come to this but you can't change things and I suppose the only thing you can do now is try to minimise the damage. No matter how many times you tell STBXH you won't see AP I don't think he will ever believe you. His anger seems to have took over and anger is a strong emotion and very hard to control.Look after yourself another and try and not stress too much.Hopefully STBXH will eventually calm down.
ali x
Hi Anotherseyes,
I'm so sorry that you are going through this. My heart goes out to you and sending many hugs your way. Like all the other posts your H is hurt & angry and he wants to make sure you & AP are unhappy and miserable just like him. I think he's made up his mind to let everything out and although you can prolong it for a little while its only a matter of time before AP's wife finds out. I know this is something you were trying to avoid but lets look at the facts. Just be prepared how things will be with AP once W does find out. This will be another hurdle that will have to go through.
Stay strong and as hard as it may be clear
Much peace & Love,
Rayne
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I just want to say that I am sorry you're living all of our worst nightmare. I can only hope you're safe through all of this.
I agree with many other posters. Your APs wife is bound to find out, if not directly from your husband, then through the grapevine, so to speak. IMHO, your AP should tell his wife to try to soften the blow, if there is any way to soften this kind of news. As difficult as it may be.
Please keep posting so we know you're safe.
"BTW sorry for not keeping up & just out of curiosity but how did H know where
anotherseyes
Thank you everyone :)
Well, the night just got more strange.
anotherseyes
I'm glad this all worked out and that your H got to vent and your AP is in the clear for now from his
Much peace & Love,
Rayne
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Edited 8/5/2010 11:56 am ET by brfl2009
It is not for me to decide if/when/how AP's W find out: that is for him to decide.
anotherseyes
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