trying to be ONLY friends!!

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Registered: 05-23-2008
trying to be ONLY friends!!
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Mon, 11-17-2008 - 8:01pm

me and my AP have been trying to do the friend thing for 3 months now basically ever since he got married. i think im just venting but would love to know of any stories similar to mine. to be honest I have trouble believing alot he says to me. mainly because now we are friends the conversations is a little different, he still doesnt like to tell me about their realtionship or anything. a few months ago he wanted to move to scotland,i live in england, now he wants to buy a house here instead which he wanted to do a couple years ago with her too although he is very good at talking the talk and it sometimes egts to but i realise i shouldnt believe anything until it happens. i have been warned by others about him, he tells me his password on his phone, is that strange? and everything now is to remind himself that he is married and i have been told he is a very good show man with another women he cheated on he put a poster up in his room to "stay focused". do you see where i'm going with this pattern?


now more than ever we spend about 45mins to an hour on the phone a day!! earlier she told him to get off the phone to me. it didnt happen like that since we had started our A. I made a joke about us having children but he took it serously and tried to find a way around it except for once i didnt let him pull me in.

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Tue, 11-18-2008 - 8:55am
it will get better..he is committed to his wife because he did make a vow before God...that doesn't mean he wants to be with her...my situation is similar NOW to yours..i can empathize with you...i just hope you are strong enough to deal with the friend thing.
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss