trying to do the right thing but.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-23-2008
trying to do the right thing but.....
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Mon, 12-15-2008 - 8:29pm

he in certain ways is stifiling things. i dont really know what he is trying to do but he says he wants t odo the right thing by his wife but refuses to get rid of one of the biggest problem in his M ME!!! we no longer sleep together but he doesnt seem to understand that our EA is still noticable and a problem for other ppl too. he claims he doesnt want to do anything he wouldnt want his wife to do so i tried to ask him if he would like it if his wife kept a man around that you suspected she had an affair with, loved and sometimes sided with him and not you? but htat didnt count. he says its the principle he would not make her get rid of a friend, what is he missing we are in an EA that also used to be PA that ppl were aware of putting a ring on her finger doesnt tell everyone you no longer love me especialy when i spoke to him twice on his wedding day once when he was about to cut the cake.


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2007
Mon, 12-15-2008 - 11:36pm

wow!! you were actually at his wedding?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-15-2007
Tue, 12-16-2008 - 11:02am

Maybe he is trying to let you go gently and you won't let him ? ?


You don't need for him to let you go.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-23-2008
Tue, 12-16-2008 - 8:05pm

ok so first im sorry for not making it clear, he called me by phone twice on his wedding day. what i didnt understand was the fact that i was willing to leave his life as his W had a problem with me but he doesnt want me to go atall!! i also understand what you're say btrue but

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-15-2007
Wed, 12-17-2008 - 8:56am

I know you're not going to do anything we say, and I think you want me to tell you that he loves you and that's why he keeps you around.