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| Tue, 01-06-2009 - 8:33pm |
It's been the Rollercoaster ride of the month for me....
| Tue, 01-06-2009 - 8:33pm |
It's been the Rollercoaster ride of the month for me....
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Just want to know, What did you do in your situation?
Girl don't thank me...that's what this board is for..we are all in this mess together..LOL..
But seriously you hit it on the head. I told AP once (the nice one that I have had the past three years) that it is wierd being in an A, there are no rules.....I sort of feel like I have no right to expect anything but in some ways I feel that I do. He totally understands....I think once jealousy gets in the way that is when I'll probably walk. I can't handle that emotion very well....I know that he has the right to have an A with whoever else he feels like but that doesn't mean I have to try and deal with it. part of the fantasy is being AP's only AP. Knowing he's a player getting it all over makes him less attractive to me. yeah, I'm wierd but its okay.....It's my A and i'll feel however the frig I want.
I told my AP the first time that I questioned him about being with someone else.
the same holds true for me, doesn't it? If I can lie to my H, then I can lie to AP and become the town whore. I choose not to. It isn't my nature to do that. I am not sleeping with my H, I only sleep with AP and very infrequently. As for my AP I dont feel that I have the right to expect him not to stray with anyone else, but I have a right to have my feelings about it. I own my own feelings and I honor them. We started off as good friends and we told one another about why we were unhappy in our M's, etc. I told him stuff I told noone else about my life and vice versa. I'd like to think that after sharing all that he would tell me if he had a fling with someone else....and to be honest with you part of me doesnt want to know...but I am not a fool and know what the deal is in a situation like this. Thanks for your input anyway.
I have been with my AP for 8 years this year...I THOUGHT we had an understanding that we were seeing only each other..and that if he or I ever found someone else that we wanted to be with we would tell the other and that we are HONEST with each other about everything (sexually anyways).
I just found out a few months ago, that is not true.
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