Trying LC, HELP PLEASE

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Registered: 01-21-2009
Trying LC, HELP PLEASE
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Mon, 03-16-2009 - 1:20pm

Hello,


Trying to go Limited Contact with my AP. Short background. Been in A for a year Both M. We are both moving towards D. But LDA 1000 miles away. I have asked for a break because she keeps pressuring me to see her all the time. Expensive to fly all the time. Also having moral issues with A. Asked to go LC. She is now pulling away and wants to be "friends". Have hade intimate contact many times. We both love each other. I don't see either one of our situations changing in the next 6-9 months. Just want a break. She wants to pull away. Have an issue that she doesnt even think cheating is wrong. Pulling my hair out! How do you become friends after 1 year of serious physical and emotional closeness. Any help?


Adm

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Registered: 01-21-2009
Wed, 03-18-2009 - 1:38pm

Tyger,


No you are completely right bout what you said. I am just trying to take a break before we end up resenting each other for not enough time together blah blah blah, i could feel our relat growing aprt for petty things. She just turned 40 and realized she never loved hubby of 12 yrs and wants true love and found it with me. Great, but not ready to move 1000 miles yet on a gf's whim. I think we will always be friends but not sure about much more. Thanks for the input.


Adm

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Registered: 05-20-2007
Thu, 03-19-2009 - 4:09am




amexdm,


I am 43, SW, never married, 1 child (jr high). I did not have the breakdown


at 40, mine was @ 30. :) EA with xAP left me feeling guilty about it to the


degree that it was not how I wanted to end up in a real R, starting off


as AP's. I have never married, because the R's that I was in that may have


wound up with a M then D I felt, becuase it did not feel right to me. Too


many differences in personalities and trying to see the future with those


men did not paint a "happily ever after" scenario in my mind.

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