Trying to move on...

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Registered: 10-11-2013
Trying to move on...
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Wed, 11-27-2013 - 9:06pm

is apparently easier said than done. If you have been following my story you already know that I had an A last year with a guy I have known since high school. We are both attached. I have an amazing man at home but there is just something missing and I found it in this guy. He on the other hand is only with his girl for convenience or so I am told but not in that word. Eventually, things tapered off and then stopped all together and I ended up coming clean to my man...which led to his girl finding out. We had no communication for almost a year then started texting and seeing each other again. We got to know each other better then finally after a month we kissed. Then a week later he stopped any contact again. I see him all the time...catch him behind me on the road but he acts like he doesn't even notice me or something. So I posted on this board needing to vent about my hurt and confusion. Someone posted a response about the best way to get over a guy is get a new one. Well, after a month or so of no contact and weird behaviors from this guy I decided to try out another guy I had a one night A with in the past. I am trying really hard but I can't help but compare anyone and everyone to this other guy. I feel that I am over him but I still miss him and wish things would start back up with him. I think it has to do with this guy never making it feel like I was just a sexual plaything and anyone else does. I am starting to think that I should just give up. Ideas?

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Registered: 11-29-2013
Fri, 11-29-2013 - 2:47am
I might be coming off harsh but the best thing to do is to go see a therapist and tell the physician this story and then at the end of it ask them if you're perfectly sane person or should continue being under therapy. I feel sorry for your husband, not you. I hope he's doing what you're doing behind your back. Good luck!
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Registered: 10-11-2013
Wed, 12-04-2013 - 1:51am

Ouch! I was seeing a therapist and dealing with some of my personal issues. I have my issues but I am perfectly sane...thanks. My SO considered it when it all came out but never acted on it. I have had plenty more opportunities and haven't taken any of them. This guy is the only one that has some kind of spell on me that makes it hard to let go not only of him but of what we had together. Excuse me for being human and making mistakes. At least I came clean and made the effort of fixing the problem. This isn't all on me ya know!?

As for an update...this guy and I talked today. I found out what was going on and such.

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Registered: 11-11-2013
Mon, 12-09-2013 - 4:35am
Its nice to know I am not the only one and my situation did not really even get close to sex,but I can't seem to let the person go even after not seeing her for months.I feel your pain Lovers_lane and with nobody to talk to about it,its more difficult.
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Registered: 12-22-2013
Sun, 12-22-2013 - 7:42pm
Can you not read? This is a support board. Not a beat up on people board.