Trying something new...

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Registered: 09-03-2003
Trying something new...
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Tue, 11-04-2003 - 12:54pm
I just saw MM and boy is he strong. Nerves of steel this week. Last week he was all weak and wanting me and telling me so every five seconds. I started out pretty strong but he weakened me by constantly telling me how beautiful I was. So I'm sitting there, feeling kind of playful, and I just mouthed, out of the blue, the words, "I want you." He said, "For what?" All seriousness, no flirtiness at all. In the past when he's been like that I've gotten the hint and backed off, but this time... I don't know. I'm wondering what would happen if I continue to be light and playful and seductive and keep doing these types of things. Do you think it would scare him off??? I guess it's just a judgment call, but I'm wondering what others do in that situation.
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Registered: 10-06-2003
Tue, 11-04-2003 - 1:04pm
well i know with my om if i keep things more flirty and say things like that, i definitely have his attention more than if everything is about our relationship.

try it a little more and if he's not responding flirty..then back off with the playfulness. he may just have too much on his plate for it to be all fun and games.

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Tue, 11-04-2003 - 1:30pm
Well, lilah, considering its your MM anything is possible. He may go back to being guilty or he might come after you big time. Don't be fooled by his nerves of steel - I bet they all are an act for your sake. You can mouth all you want girl, after after all its time to let yourself go!!! Never mind about what he thinks - I think you think too much my lady. LOL
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Registered: 09-03-2003
Tue, 11-04-2003 - 3:37pm
That's what MM always says, that I should quit thinking too much. How do you turn that switch off? I wish I could... All I can go on is past behavior, and in the past I've always tried to flirt, he's ignored it and kept things small-talky, and I've backed off. But I'm having FUN. Is that insane? Just throwing that stuff out there and seeing the look on his face... He tries his best not to react but you can tell it's hitting him deep down. But you guys do have a point about him possibly not feeling like keeping it light and fun with a lot on his plate right now. I think he's just having a lot of guilt and me telling him I want him might make that worse. I just don't know... But then, it didn't matter how I felt when he was telling ME he wanted me every five seconds a couple of weeks ago, so why should it matter to me now? Why should I let him have all the control? I SHOULDN'T!!! The thing is, it kinda bothers me when he gets like this because I feel like he doesn't feel the same about me as he did last week. I feel like something's kicked in and he doesn't want me as much. He swears, when things are going well, that his feelings for me never change, even when he's acting like they are, but I can't seem to process that information. It genuinely feels like he's not only over me, but that I'm annoying him every time I call or come by. It's like he just doesn't want to deal with me. Sometimes the flirtiness does get his attention for at least a few seconds... I guess I'm kind of experimenting this time, trying to find out what I can do to a) shorten the amount of time he spends in this slump and b) still have fun even when he's NOT. I actually feel better about being flirtatious when he's being like this. I think it's all about the challenge...seeing if I can wear him down, but of course I don't want him to know that that's my objective!