trying to understand

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Registered: 01-21-2008
trying to understand
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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 9:57am

My AP has been distant for sometime.

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Registered: 10-25-2007
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 10:19am
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Edited 9/29/2008 1:51 pm ET by nonchalant345
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Registered: 01-21-2008
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 10:26am
That so very hard as I see him everyday.
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Registered: 10-03-2007
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 10:45am
You dont say whose M or unM. When you know he is a big time player,then you yourself are to blame for the crap he gives you.
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Registered: 01-21-2008
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 10:52am
Yes you are correct....I do let him...guess I spend to much time trying to figure him out.
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Registered: 10-03-2007
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 10:57am
You crack me ! You have a 'wonderful H and we have a great relationship" while your AP is a game player and treats you like crap. It has to be the opposite.Make your H as AP or i will ,lol!
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Registered: 01-21-2008
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 11:11am
I know....I am a mess!!
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Registered: 09-19-2008
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 11:26am
Is he M too? The guy that I have a crush on but we haven't gone all the way, just lots of kisses and obviously there's a huge attraction there
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Registered: 09-19-2008
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 11:34am
It could be he's doing this so you know he's not serious about his feelings for you. My brother is such a player and being 30, he's not into a serious R at all. He can totally be into a girl but if she's not there, it's out of sight ouf of mind. I think in general guys are just better at keeping their emotions in check. I get a lot of insight on the male's mind, lol, from my little brother who dates way too many women, and inevitably they all fall for him too soon, especially after being intimate, so he's up front by saying I'm not looking for a serious R and they would say me neither, but not surprisingly, the girls always end up falling and putting the pressure after s ... x. He's very clear about what he's doing but I think for women, we might say that's cool but when it gets more intimate, we tend to analyze the R a lot more and the more we analyze, the more we feel what may or may not be real. Just wanted to share this and I hope it helps you to get a feel as to where your guy is coming from. How old is he? Do you want more from him? I think it might be helpful to decide what you want from him otherwise you might end up falling for him and to realize later you both are looking for different things.
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Registered: 12-06-2007
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 5:39pm

I had a 3 year A that ended a few years ago with my boss.

 

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Registered: 01-21-2008
Tue, 09-30-2008 - 8:32am

Hi OBX,