Trying to understand?

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Registered: 12-04-2003
Trying to understand?
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Thu, 12-18-2003 - 9:26am
HI thier, just need to ask a Q?

I am not having an affair, but my very best girlfriend is. And I feel I have been put in the middle of this.

I had a horrable fight with her 2 months ago, and I feel so bad and want to fix things with her.

You see she has called me to go out the odd time and then her lover will met us, I do not no this untill he shows up. Her husband and mine, well all of us and our kids have been close for 10 years now.Then 2 months ago I was out of town, My brother was almost killed in a motorbike accident. I am sitting in the hospital very upset so I called my husband just to talk. I got him on his cell phone and he was with my friend at a football game. For some reson I was so mad that I was seeing RED. I no everything she is up to,, he does not no a dam thing. I got in a figth with my husband and then with her on the phone.

Tolled her to go work on her own F#*KING marriage. My husband and I are fine. But my emotions were running so high that day in the hospital I just wanted to here the comfort of my husband, and not hear here voice and about her affiar.

I no she is lonely, and the affiar she is having is making her feel alive again, but I am in a happy marriage. I don't want to be used so she can met up with her lover.

I love her dearly, and miss her friendship, but it also hurts to be around her.

What have I done? How do I fix? I just want to understand?

Anyone who reads this or even answers thank you

Connie
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Registered: 09-03-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 9:36am
You are right. It is very unfair of her to put you in that position. The only choice you have in this situation is to have a talk with her. Tell her you no longer want to be involved in her affair and if she needs a cover, she'll have to find someone else. If she keeps it up, threaten to tell her H. Don't actually do it, but just threaten to do it. As for the part about when you were in the hospital...I didn't fully understand. Did you think she was trying to seduce your H or were you just mad that she was using him as a cover now that you were incapacitated?
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Registered: 12-04-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 2:10pm
It is not that I was worried about her stealing my husband, Not a worry in the world about that. Like I said befor, my emotions were running so High at the time. I am sitting with my brother scared to death and alone. Trying to call my husband, called her house and her husband is at home with his kids and mine as well.

Here is my girlfriend and my husband out drinking and having fun at a football game. it is not rigth for me to flip out but I did,, this is why I need to fix things.