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| Fri, 01-16-2009 - 12:28pm |
Hey Girl, I was just reading one of your post, and it sounded as if you and AP broke up. I don't know where I have been, but I missed it if you started up a new thread, and explained what happened. If you don't mind, do you care to fill me in? I am all in the mustard, and can't Ketchup!
If you and AP did break up I am so sorry to hear that. You must be terribly sad. I can SO understand where you are at, and some of what you must be feeling. I know that there isn't a lot that I can say that will take away the pain, but I do have this to say......
Your R w/ AP is generally one that I admire. Your AP sounds like SUCH a good man that truly, and honestly loves you, don't loose sight of that. I mean he is probably one of the better behaved AP's on this board. Certainly better than my AP. He makes sure that you AND your son are well looked out for. That in itself is a true blessing because a lot of men don't take care of their own children, let alone someone else's. He always make sure that he spend a good amount of time w/ you. Let me stop, because you of all people don't need me to sit here and list all the great things YOUR AP does, because you already know.
I guess what I'm getting at is it has always sounded to me that you and AP have a very intense, and passionate R. I don't think that you can have an R that is as powerful as your's and AP's, and not expect to have arguments or disagreements that aren't just as intense, and passionate as the R itself. I don't know that what I have said so far will be of any help to you. More than anything I just wanted to let you know that I have just found out that you two are having trouble, and I'm here, we are ALL here if you need us. We are always willing to listen, and offer any advice that we can. I will be thinking about you, and hoping that your spirits won't be too down. I know that you are a strong woman that can weather any storm that comes her way, but again the offer is there if you need it.
Justice

hey justice..this is what happened..i copied it from a reply i sent to someone because if i type it over i will crumble more...i broke down again this morning..i am so sad..
after spending friday 1/9/09 for about 9 hours with ap he said he would definately come over saturday 1/10/09
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
This is why some of us "old timers" might come across as being judgmental by telling people not to be in A's.
Dag tyger, I'm really sorry to hear what has happen. I can see how him saying that could really hurt your feelings, and give you cause to panic that perhaps he wants to end things.
You know yourself that when something like this happens to one us on the board it's very hard to find the right thing to say to help ease their pain. Unfortunately I too find myself in that position. I know you feel like your heart has been ripped out, but I'm w/ the other poster that said it's not over yet.
You and your AP have a great R most of the time. I believe that he will be back. It's getting through the time until he does come back that's going to be the hard part. I guess all that I can say is TRY to keep busy, and think positive thoughts. I know how ridiculous that must sound to you, because you are in so much pain, but really it is the only advice that I can offer. It is the only thing that all of us can do besides end things, and that doesn't sound like that's where you are trying to go. So try to keep your chin up, and we are here if you need us.
Justice
hey mamacita..luckily, my best friend is in an A herself but has an abusive H at home she is going through something..and my cuz well her BF walked out on her..we are all going through something..i have wonderful support...we've been busy, movies, watching Football, drinks....we never suffer financially when we go out except they sold me very cheap for about 8 rounds of drinks at the bar the other night...now why did they use my thong showing out the back of my lowrise jeans to get us some rounds..just sold me cheap....lol..i've been out and having fun..but still in the back of my mind is him..it's cool..he's been talking to my DS of course..you know that always happens...good thing about him is i don't think he'll ever let DS down although he knows he cannot provide to me what i need...to the other poster..she's right..it was a kind thing for him to say..he is selfish in that he wanted me but, was trying to be selfless by saying he thinks i should date other people..he didn't think about how much it would hurt me though...i understand completely where he was coming from..i just think he wrote a check his arse can't cash on that one because, if i know him like i know him, he's gonna be really hurt once i do start dating someone else..that is if he finds out ...also again for those that think i want AP to leave his wife for me---i never asked him to leave his W and would NEVER make those demands on him..that's not what it's about for me...i just wanted to love Ap
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
Hi Tygerize,
Im not really sure what advice to give but like your girlfriend has said maybe he is trying to lessen his guilt.
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss