Ugh

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Registered: 09-13-2012
Ugh
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Sat, 11-10-2012 - 10:46pm

Bummer news. I stayed with A  last night. It was meh.  I'm so disappointed. I had fun spending time with him, but I already knew that I would because we've spent limited time together before.  It wasn't fireworks or even at all what we'd talked about or I'd imagined. Now, I already knew it wouldn't be exactly what I imagined (I mean, it never is, right?). But it wasn't anywhere close. So disappointing. I would end it, and probably will I guess, but I actually like him and I'll certainly miss our daily communication. This sucks.

Please join me in my pity party! ha.

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Registered: 08-13-2012
In reply to: Gggb1975
Sun, 11-11-2012 - 4:44pm

Why not give it a second chance?

 

 

Gggb1975 wrote:
<p>Bummer news. I stayed with A  last night. It was meh.  I'm so disappointed. I had fun spending time with him, but I already knew that I would because we've spent limited time together before.  It wasn't fireworks or even at all what we'd talked about or I'd imagined. Now, I already knew it wouldn't be exactly what I imagined (I mean, it never is, right?). But it wasn't anywhere close. So disappointing. I would end it, and probably will I guess, but I actually like him and I'll certainly miss our daily communication. This sucks.</p><p>Please join me in my pity party! ha.</p>

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Registered: 12-18-2008
In reply to: janamich67
Mon, 11-12-2012 - 8:24am

I don't know your story or how long you've been with your AP. Just my .02, the "first time" is usually kind of an audition thing, you know? You can't go by that so much. My AP #2, the older guy, he was definitely "meh" the first 2 or even 3 times. Now he's amazing. :D

-jana

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Registered: 09-21-2007
In reply to: Gggb1975
Mon, 11-12-2012 - 11:12am

I agree, the first time isn't always what you expect.  For me, I am nervous, it's someone new, and I want it to go right.  My H and I didn't have a stellar first performance, and we had to work on it a bit.  It was a little different with AP and I was beside myself of how great it was.

If you like him and enjoy his company, I would give him another chance.

 

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Registered: 09-13-2012
In reply to: Gggb1975
Mon, 11-12-2012 - 10:44pm

Jana,

We've known each other for three months - not long. And, we met on the internet, so we've chatted every day, but have only seen each other four times (three of which were chaste).

Audition thing? Well, wouldn't that mean he didn't get the part? ;)  I'm only kidding. Two or three meh times, though? I don't know, I just keep thinking I've risked my whole world for that??  He says it was nerves. Bleh. It wouldn't have been so bad, I think the pressure was just there. See, the last time we went out at night, we couldn't do anything because we were in public (we wound up in my car, but it's too small...). Anyway, I wanted him so much that night. We didn't have any time to build up to that this time. Room was paid for, we only had limited time, it was obviously the expectation, so it was just 'right away' and I guess I needed some time to let myself get comfortable first. I don't know. The OP said give it a second chance too. I guess I could. I mean, all the trouble I went to know and get comfortable with this one on all the other levels, and I do like him. It seems a shame to just throw that away. 

It's just so frustrating, because w/out getting a room, there is no where for us to go...and that's just so "set up" that I feel like I'll never be comfortable. IDK. What do you all do? I mean, where? Any other ideas? Cars are both out of the question (two car seats each and small quarters, both).  Houses are off limits.