Ultimatum: get divorce or I sleep around

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Registered: 08-04-2009
Ultimatum: get divorce or I sleep around
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Tue, 08-04-2009 - 7:14pm

Is my boyfriend justified in sleeping with other women because I'm married?


I just found out that he's been having regular sex with numerous other women because I'm not available to commit to him right now.

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Registered: 05-15-2007
Tue, 08-04-2009 - 7:39pm

Well I guess he has every right to do that. That being said, he sounds like a jacka$$ and if I were you I'd drop him like a hot potatoe.


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Registered: 08-04-2009
Tue, 08-04-2009 - 7:44pm
He is convinced that I am still in love with my husband and thinks that despite what I tell him I won't leave. He says he is single and will play the field until I decide not to be married anymore.
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Registered: 08-04-2009
Tue, 08-04-2009 - 7:51pm

Runner, that's cool, except that I'm not sleeping with my H. My AP and I agreed to have sex only with each other, but it was only words.


I suppose he thought that since I'm "somewhat" unavailable, he wouldn't make himself so available too. The reason for my post is to understand if I should feel sad that he lied to me, when the only person I lied to is my husband.

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Registered: 06-19-2008
Wed, 08-05-2009 - 10:28am

the guy is having regular sex with " numerous" other women

1. you are at risk health-wise( even if you are not sleeping with him and lets assume ,end up marrying him,he might be bringing problems along)

2. you " found" out.he didnt tell you before you asked him ( or whatever way you found out)

3. would you want to be with a guy who sleeps around and feels justified in doing so? if he is manipulating you now,what if you D and want to be with this guy in real,he will go to more extents to get his way.And if you refuse?

I am a SM in A with MW for nearly 22 years now.I am not waiting for her to D ,i dont sleep around ,its pure simple love.

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Registered: 06-18-2009
Wed, 08-05-2009 - 2:11pm

You and your AP deserve each other. The only sad part is that you're stringing your H along dragging him through the mud without a care for his feelings and well being.

BTW? for as long as your stay M, your AP does not belong to you or you to him, therefore, he can sleep around with whomever he wants. He has the best of both worlds.

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Registered: 04-17-2009
Wed, 08-05-2009 - 3:27pm
Excuse me?
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Registered: 05-07-2009
Wed, 08-05-2009 - 5:51pm

Honey, the bottom line is you're not available, and he's single.

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Registered: 05-18-2007
Wed, 08-05-2009 - 11:15pm

You and your AP are both in the wrong. You are deceiving your H and sleeping around on him. He is deceiving you and sleeping around on you. Yes, he is single, BUT he promised it was you and him.


Either way, you both live in glass houses, so don't throw any stones.


Either


1. accept he has other women


2. end it with AP


3. end it with your H and be with AP solo.


I don't suggest #3: those are just your options. If you do sleep with him, please use a condom. If you want to mess up your life with unprotected sex fine, but don't put your husband at risk.

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Registered: 07-09-2008
Thu, 08-06-2009 - 12:17am

Listen to what you are saying...


You are MARRIED; and you are jealous that your SINGLE boyfriend is sleeping with other available women?


I don't care what promises you make to each other.