Umm...do I detect a little agression?

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Umm...do I detect a little agression?
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Wed, 07-21-2010 - 2:46am

So I've said before AP appears to have the perfect life--great kids, wonderful wife.

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Wed, 07-21-2010 - 7:24am

Hell yeah!


I must admit I feel slightly good about myself when my AP makes a remark about his partner that shows she is a bit cold (which I think she is) or that he has diminished feelings for her.


BUT- laugh at her? NO. Make fun of her? NO. This is a real woman and as much as I love being with my AP, he is her partner, and I am participating in something that could be incredible shattering for her. By the same token I wont say bad things about my H or allow my AP to. Its just not right.


Having said all that, there is NO way your AP is happy with his W jane- perfect woman that she is- if he is making those sort of comments or even seeing you. But by the same token, AP's lie or embellish about their home environments I think to make theselves appear more neglected than they are.


Either way, his comments about his W are strange. He's definately trying to communicate something there- but I wouldnt laugh at his wife.


Not sure Id tsk tsk him, maybe just ignore it- he'll get the message soon enough that you wont engage in that convo.

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Wed, 07-21-2010 - 11:29am
I agree with IGS. I'd ignore it and change the subject. And I actually think that a lot of men who ARE perfectly happy at home will still engage in an A. (I read this somewhere. Most women do have something missing in their M if having an A, but many men do not. They are just more capable of having two relationships than we are. And that is a BROAD generalization, always there are individual exceptions). Anyway you are right, it is mean. I rarely speak badly of my H - when I do it's not even "bad" just an affectionate sort of complaining about silly things. But I don't even talk about him much.

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Wed, 07-21-2010 - 12:11pm
That would make me majorly uncomfortable!

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Wed, 07-21-2010 - 9:18pm
I just reread my post and man, can anyone say passive-aggressive snarky?!?!?!