Unbelievably hurt

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Registered: 04-25-2009
Unbelievably hurt
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Fri, 05-01-2009 - 7:53pm

Hi all,


I wrote earlier how my AP's daughter found texts to him from a 'married woman'.

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Registered: 08-08-2005
Sat, 05-02-2009 - 10:08am

i had forgotten how much we have in common. i'm sorry to see you sad but i'm glad to see you here.

send me a message,
Mrs.




Edited 5/2/2009 10:51 am ET by mrs.smithandjones
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Sat, 05-02-2009 - 5:40pm

Sc... I'm so sorry that you are feeling so sad.

maystone
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Registered: 04-25-2009
Sat, 05-02-2009 - 6:09pm

{{{Hugs}}}}


Thank you maystone!


He seems determined not to talk to or see me again.

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Registered: 03-07-2009
Sat, 05-02-2009 - 6:21pm

Good

maystone
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Registered: 02-23-2008
Sat, 05-02-2009 - 8:12pm

Sorry to hear about your pain and difficult years in the past.
We all have burdens--that is part of life.
I feel for your AP--the one thing you are trying to hang onto--the family and your daughters CD release for example--well--with the discovery of his texts to you--he now has lost his daughter...as a divorced man one would think it wouldn't have such a devastating impact on his daughter--but the fact remains--it did.

So he already lost what you want to keep.

I am exiting a long term marriage because my A taught me this--you can't have it all, and in the end one must be true to oneself.

I wish you well.

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Registered: 04-25-2009
Sat, 05-02-2009 - 8:33pm

Thank you, eternal.


Your post brings up my deepest fear.

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Registered: 02-23-2008
Sun, 05-03-2009 - 3:28am

Dear he doesn't hate you or what you have together....love is love and with it comes forgiveness. We are all only human true? Frankly--i wondered why he daughter was
going thru his texts but at this point it is a moot point.

I understand how you feel--we devote ourselves to our families and then we fall in love and what are we to do? For me the decision
rested solely on my refusal to stay with a man i no longer loved...I wont get into what happened along the way but i will say I have no guilt and no regrets about my A or my decision to leave H...another factor in my decision was the fear that the discovery of my affair could affect the relationship
I have with my grown children.... It is hard but this is where I find myself. My entire adult life
I have devoted myself to my family--for me with my children now grown
i feel I can move on and know I have been the best mom i could be.
You must look deep inside and see what is right for you etc--what you can live with.

Dot be so hard on yourself--after all we are only human....be well.

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Registered: 04-25-2009
Sun, 05-03-2009 - 9:44am

He had a new phone, gave his old phone to his daughter.

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Registered: 03-07-2009
Sun, 05-03-2009 - 3:41pm
Sc... you know one thing I was thinking too and it kind of came up with Eternal's post... the whole daughter component is kind of is odd to me.
maystone
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Registered: 04-25-2009
Sun, 05-03-2009 - 4:31pm

Thank you both again.


I have told him the same thing, that he was entitled to his privacy and his own life that he would never think about doing this to her.