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Registered: 03-26-2010
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Thu, 08-19-2010 - 10:36pm

Well it's been a BUSY week!

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Registered: 04-11-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 11:24pm

Jane you are an absolute inspiration to me - you really are.


Im glad he hasnt just decided to finish it. But still, waiting for him to arrange things and not knowing what he wants can be an irritant in itself.


Im so sorry about your M too. I am sending you big hugs.


Iggyxxxxx

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Registered: 04-28-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 8:40am
Jane-I am glad things are going well for you in your new job. You sound really positive. I knew AP wouldn't want to end things and I don't think that surprised you either. I'm glad you could hear it from him firsthand. Now that you know that he wants this too, you will just have to find what works for you both in regards to your seeing each other and having contact. I think you should let him make some effort for you next get together, if you can wait for him to plan it. I find I am usually the one bringing up our next "date." I just don't think he thinks that far ahead and I do,I am a planner. He is always agreeable to getting together. I try not to over do it and we have been keeping it at every other week in addition to our regular daily contact.
As far as your M, I'm sending some hugs. I am very lonely also, but for different reasons. It's not that H doesn't want to do things with us,but it's always with us, not with ME. We have just grown so far apart, so distant. At this point I just want to stay together for the kids, we have 4. I want to be friends and run the household, raise the kids, etc. I don't want anything else from him at this point and I don't want a D. We have been living like this for some time now, so it will just continue. This EA has given me what I am missing in my M. So I guess I am a cake eater? I won't rule out leaving if something/someone motivates me to do so in the future,but for now I am staying put. H seems to be okay with things and we just plod along.
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Registered: 06-02-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 9:34am

..........But things are OK. Still having problems in my M...

ok so were you expecting your M to get better while you continue pinning for your AP ? are you really that naive?

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Registered: 06-02-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 10:18am
so are you saying you are ok with pretending to love your H until someone better comes up ? I really dont think your H can ever be ok with that false life.
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Registered: 03-26-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 6:16pm

Iggy-Aw, thanks.

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Registered: 03-29-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 8:57pm
I think your new job sounds great! I also think your life in general sounds OK, all things considered. Totally with you on not being the one to arrange anything anymore. Let AP do it if that's what he really wants. Let HIM be the one to want you THAT much - to go ahead and plan something. Good for you Jane. :-)

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Registered: 07-24-2009
In reply to: janejosie
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 11:16pm
Jane - I'm so glad