It is a tricky question...since you were the one who called normally....I think you made it very clear that you want him to take intiative as well, so may be you have to put him in a position to initiate contact as well. My AP normally calls after work. One day I called him in the morning at the time he is on the way to work, but he did not asnwer, on that day he did not call as usual and neither did he call the next day. So I called and asked: " are you ok?" He said : " Yes, feeling a bit sick...blah blah blah", so I said I just wanted to make sure he was ok since I haven't heard from him in almost 2 days, and I will let him go. He said : " let's talk, it is good you called" I told him I was going in a meeting and I could not talk which was true, but I also did not want to talk to him. And from now on, I will not worry whether he got hit by a bus or train, and since he drives, that option is out...lol...At the end he does not worry to call to make sure I did not get hit by anything.... I do not want to appear desperate, and I know he does not like desperate women and he told me that he likes me because I have bigger dreams than just making A the centre of my life. I want to learn to be able to function normally when he goes into NC mode.
Why do we always worry about them getting hit by a bus, train or car, but they do not???
i would get so sad if i didn't talk and text "whateva you wanna call him" each day...we established that kind of relationship with each other...he gets mad if we don't talk...we got nuts if we don't speak to one another...we're kind of used to talking to each other at wake up time, morning drive, throughtout the day and work end time, then before bed....even if it's a brief good morning, i gotta
I have been where you are...MM could go a week or longer without any contact.
It is a tricky question...since you were the one who called normally....I think you made it very clear that you want him to take intiative as well, so may be you have to put him in a position to initiate contact as well. My AP normally calls after work. One day I called him in the morning at the time he is on the way to work, but he did not asnwer, on that day he did not call as usual and neither did he call the next day. So I called and asked: " are you ok?" He said : " Yes, feeling a bit sick...blah blah blah", so I said I just wanted to make sure he was ok since I haven't heard from him in almost 2 days, and I will let him go. He said : " let's talk, it is good you called" I told him I was going in a meeting and I could not talk which was true, but I also did not want to talk to him. And from now on, I will not worry whether he got hit by a bus or train, and since he drives, that option is out...lol...At the end he does not worry to call to make sure I did not get hit by anything.... I do not want to appear desperate, and I know he does not like desperate women and he told me that he likes me because I have bigger dreams than just making A the centre of my life. I want to learn to be able to function normally when he goes into NC mode.
Why do we always worry about them getting hit by a bus, train or car, but they do not???
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