Update

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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 8:31pm


Well, I promised to update everyone after MM and I got together yesterday.

We had a wonderful time. We didn't discuss his W at all. As I've already said, I explained my concerns to him. Now they're his to handle.

(He did say something on the phone about her calling me. He said, "I doubt she'll ever call you again, but if she does, ((because my number would be on his phone)), just tell her that it was a mistake and that you dialed the number by accident." ROFL I asked him if he was _sure_ that's what he wanted me to say? Seems to me that if I dialed his number by "accident", that would mean that I either had dialed it so frequently it was memorized, or it was on my speed dial. VBEG MM is super-intelligent. I absolutely love it when I come up with an angle that hasn't already crossed that over-active mind of his. Anyway, I told him not to worry about it. I'd deal with it, if I have to, when it happens. LOL)

And I still don't believe that she's believes either of us. She's a smart woman. She's either biding her time, or choosing to close her eyes. Again, that's out of my hands. I'll just be careful and enjoy what I do have.

And I have tons of phone time with him...e-mails, IM's...a BOOK...and I get to see him every other week or so. He's not going anywhere, and I guess I'm not either. ::smiles::

I just wanted to share one other thing. After he got back to work yesterday, he called me. He said "Awesome...that was just awesome." Then he said something that almost brought me to tears. As he was getting ready to hang up he said, "Oh, and I want to say one more thing. Thank-you - for being you. I love you."

Still wish I knew why he's so unconcerned about W, though. ROFL



Cazrida

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Registered: 05-23-2004
In reply to: cazrida
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 11:33pm
I'm new on the board. What does ROFL mean?
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In reply to: cazrida
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 7:39am
Caz

I'm happy for you , i know you were concerned about all this. What a wonderful thing for him to say in parting with you!

ROFL= Rolling On the Floor Laughing

:)

dd

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Registered: 10-22-2003
In reply to: cazrida
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 8:42am
Thanks for the update Cazrida! I'd been wondering how things are going. I don't know your whole story so I'm not sure - did the W find out about you and MM at some point before? I'm glad that for now at least she isn't an issue. I sure hope it stays that way. The way you talk about MM reminds me SO MUCH of my XMM. He is so thoughtful and so sweet. Sadly, in my case the W found out about us several times and our A ended so XMM could put himself 100% into his M and see if it can be saved. But I saw your post to another person about how going straight from one R into another is not the way to go and I'm reminded that XMM is doing the right thing. If his M ends, it needs to end on it's own. Same with my M.

OK, I'll stop rambling now. Just wanted to say I'm glad things are going well.

Peace

GB2

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: cazrida
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 8:50am
Caz,

All I can say is WONDERFUL!!!

You are obviously very lucky to have a man that is willing to express himself in such a sweet and loving way.

It brought tears to my eyes as well.

Take care

Red

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Registered: 03-04-2004
In reply to: cazrida
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 9:23am
Nice, nice, nice.

All pretty good news. I'm glad to hear that you are shrugging your shoulders over his issues with the W. You're right: you aren't trying to make matters worse, so at that point it's sort of his cross to bear/ax to grind.

As for why he isn't worried... well, if he's anything like me... I would guess it's because her leaving isn't really a threat, and she is probably willing to turn a somewhat blind eye and give him that blind spot to function in. Maybe it came down to him telling her to knock it off and she may have decided to do so. It's strange what people will live with and convince themselves to ignore if they think they are in a position of disadvantage, as his W is.

Or, as usual, I could be full of it.

Either way, I was glad to hear you guys are still communicating, sharing and feeling close.

rain