Update

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Registered: 05-10-2004
Update
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Thu, 05-13-2004 - 8:34am
Since my last post, I was quite angry at my MM but I am doing much better. I am not the one that had caused this "relationship" the way that it is. So I shouldn't feel bad at all. This is the last straw. I can't wait for the day that he picks up the phone. Someone wrote to me saying "give him the same crap he has given you". I will that!

For years, some of you who hadn't read any of my posts, I have been with the a**wipe for 14 years! Always treated this "relationship" at times, as non-existent but only when he wants to get laid then it becomes a "relationship". I am a firm believer in always presenting myself in a good way, never being a bitch, or being cruel or anything that may only benefit myself. I don't do that. I have always treated his with respect, patience and most importantly ... love. He always put anything that is not connected to me first as if he was doing me a favor...patronizing me in a way. There are many things that really gets me pissed off 1) is why then stay in this "Relationship" for so long. Lust is lust and it dies after a few months or so. He can't admit any feelings to me because he feels that I may take it to the edge. I started seeing him when I was 28 years old and now I am 42! Give me a break! 2) I have always confided in him, why not! But for him, everything is a secret! In the beginning, he would talk about his life, kids and of course the ugly wife! Then all of a sudden nothing! 3) Accusing me of always calling, leaving him like 6 or 7 messages a day! That is bullcrap! Before my father died, when he was diagnosed with cancer in August, the doc gave him 3 months. During that time, I focused on my father's estate and getting his legal matters in order. Didn't have the time to call my MM at all. Then when he died, that night of his death, I called him and left a message on his voice mail. He told me he called but got no one. Doesn't he realize that everyone and their mother has Caller Id!

So in conclusion, to help me get over the moron! I remember the stupid logic he has regarding us! I have been reading some posts and I have some advice on my own coming from experience being that I have learned the "hard way", don't sit home and wait for him to call. Don't feel like he is everything to you. Don't bend over backwards for him unless he has shown and spoke of his feelings. Observe how he treats you. Don't do what I did, by putting him on a pedstal!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: meadow423
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 8:45am
Good for you! I hope you're able to find some peace now! KC
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: meadow423
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 11:55am

Good for you , Meadow!

~Flirty~

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Registered: 04-14-2004
In reply to: meadow423
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 12:39pm
Congratulations, Meadow. I can feel your anger and strength in your post - use them to your advantage. I know this decision wasn't easy to come by, and NO doubt he will suddenly "see the light" when you let him know you are going to launch him. But it's a little too late - he had his chances.

Stay strong, and remember to put yourself first. YOU belong on the pedstal, Meadow - don't ever forget that.