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| Thu, 11-20-2003 - 5:57pm |
Hi all. I have been off the board for quite a while now. I was very active this time last year though. So for any that may remember me, I am posting an update. For those who don't remember me please keep reading as perhaps this short update will give you hope that you can beat the statistics. When last on the board I was married and having an EMA with a married co-worker. It has now been almost two years since that EMA started. Last April my H found out about the EMA so I moved out and filed for a divorce. Then a month later my MM got laid off from the place where we work. He got another job which is great for him, but it was and still is very hard being here everyday and sitting across from the empty office he used to have. But before you get out your tissues.... MM was so very supportive when I left my H. Although I had already told him that I loved him, he finally admitted the intensity with which he returned my love. Told me that he had tried holding back had tried everything to convince himself to end the EMA. But he just couldn't do it. Within a month of me moving out, he did the same (in June). We chose not to live together for now. We are still trying to get our individual heads and hearts straight. But we are together every free minute. And we talk on the phone constantly. See each other every day. The divorces have not been easy, but we are now free to walk down the street together in the open and openly love one another. And we do. Although it is not all romance and story book -- we are in parts of each others lives that we weren't before and see things about each other that we didn't before. But we are happy. Happier than we have both ever been before. So don't let anyone convince you that EMA can NEVER lead anywhere or that the feelings you have in EMA are not real. I found my soulmate. And just in case this applies to anyone else reading this, don't let them tell you that interracial relationships or age difference relationships don't work. My MM (now my boyfriend) is 43 and I am 24. He is black and I am white. We have almost two years together and have been through everything you can think of together.
That is it for now. Thanks for letting me glow.
Sunshine Smile

Hey Sunshine,
The name was a little familiar... and I think it all clicked at the end :)
I'm so happy for you that things are looking good and you are both working it through... I think you did the right thing by not living together and taking it step by step.
Although I know that MM and I will never end up as a 'couple' ...it's always nice to hear a love success story.
you go girl! I wish you all the best in your happiness.
luv and hugs
Sweet
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good for both of you, because it sounds like you're doing it right and happy to boot!!
congratulations and great, good luck for a wonderful future together!!
gurl
I am sooo happy for you. I remember your close calls with your wet swimsuit in the car and all and your 1st weekend away and how nervous you were. Thank you for giving us the update and the good news.
Me and my MM are still friends, but just recently (yesterday) I sent him an email and ended things, just want to be friends only. It's not what I feel is best for me right now, even tho my heart is hurting. It will be 2 years in a few months and I love that man so much. So, while I'm happy for you, I'm hurting in my heart. I will always love him and he says we have a "forever kinda thing" but never says the L word. So, for now I'm trying to get off the rollercoaster. I'm happy your MM (soon to be SM) loves you and finally gave up on the fight. Maybe that's what mine's doing, fighting it. I just don't know where I stand with him anymore. Will update on a separate threat.
Nice to hear from you.
Email me at mrsjones2003@hotmail.com.
Hugs
Luvin
What an awesome post!!! Thanks for sharing your success story. It brightens my day to hear about a happy ending. These A's are just so topsy turvy in the emotional department, that sometimes we forget that there can be light at the end of the tunnel. I've only been involved with my MM (I am single) for about 6 months. I continously keep reality close at hand and accept this R for what it is and the limitations involved. However, MM is my very best friend (has been for years) and the love of my life. And as much as I try not to place any expectations on this R, I would absolutely adore a future with him.
Best wishes for a wonderful future with your (now) boyfriend.
Annika
Brightest Blessings, Annika