Update and MAJOR confusion

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Registered: 04-27-2010
Update and MAJOR confusion
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Sun, 11-21-2010 - 4:02pm

Hi all

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Registered: 09-22-2010
Sun, 11-21-2010 - 6:31pm

Where do I start? You can read about my siutation on the borad "MAS help needed". I'm not really the one to give advice here because my life is so messed up right now it's not even funny. I'm in love with a women that has 2 small kids, just divorced, I been M 20 years with 2 teens shes totally differnet then me but, I still cant stay away from her. Anyway, I feel your pain. Have you thought about telling you husband how you are feeling? Not about AP but, just how you feel inside? Much eaiser said then done of course, but maybe if he knew how you felt it may change things between the two of you?

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Registered: 10-08-2010
Sun, 11-21-2010 - 7:07pm

I feel your pain!!!!

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Registered: 04-27-2010
Sun, 11-21-2010 - 7:27pm

Joe....I have read your story.

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Registered: 04-27-2010
Sun, 11-21-2010 - 7:30pm

Just (HUGS) Daisygirl...How does that happen???? The whole "we were best friends" to having an A....Sheesh...it was SO gradual.... Now it seems H and I can never go back... Anyway...thanks for reading!

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Registered: 04-27-2010
Sun, 11-21-2010 - 8:05pm

I have to come back and add (this is all REALLY weighing on me today): I do feel a need to "cut H loose so he can have someone love him like he should be loved"...I read that so often from Betrayed Spouses...

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Registered: 10-08-2010
Sun, 11-21-2010 - 8:52pm

(((hugs)))) right back to you.. I am so sorry you are going through this.

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Registered: 04-27-2010
Sun, 11-21-2010 - 9:27pm

You're not hijacking, Daisy...and it's quite OK to post whatever...we're all in basically the same boat here.

I envy you in that you have AP to "escape". Part of my issue w/ my A right now is that

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Registered: 10-03-2009
Sun, 11-21-2010 - 10:38pm

Hi HK,

Well, you know, if it were easy, everyone would be having As.. hang on, most everyone seems to be!!! JK.. but, most everyone is not having an easy time of having an A, is more like it..

I am glad that you really know what's going on.. with you, with AP, with where you are in life.. that puts you way ahead of the game.. and as for brain and heart meeting in a happy middle in an A, or in life in general, isn't that the $ 40K question?

You can only master over your heart so much, and I think it's a personality matter of some people being able to do that vs not.. and, at the end, if things go south, you will beat everyone to the punch telling yourself

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Registered: 10-03-2009
Sun, 11-21-2010 - 10:41pm
I, too, very much, am a lifelong, card-carrying member of the "better to have loved and lost than never loved at all" club.. (BTHLALTNLAL club for those who want to join :-) )..
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Registered: 10-08-2010
Mon, 11-22-2010 - 8:25am

you made me laugh kimber...I sometimes think my H doesn't speak my "love" language either.

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