Update and reflection

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Registered: 11-02-2009
Update and reflection
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Tue, 12-22-2009 - 7:43am

So I was able to avoid D -Day for now.

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Registered: 11-24-2009
Tue, 12-22-2009 - 9:31am

Jap,

~Layla~
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Registered: 02-23-2009
Tue, 12-22-2009 - 9:36am
Agreed! It is very hurtful to feel like you're the only one caring in any kind of relationship. We sound very similar. In similar marriages - my H also behaves like I'm his world and he'd be horrified to know what I've done. AP couldn't care less.
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Registered: 11-02-2009
Tue, 12-22-2009 - 9:51am
Thanks for the kind words everyone.
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Registered: 02-23-2009
Tue, 12-22-2009 - 11:01am
I would say don't bother sending an it's over email, but I can see why you'd want to. If you are going to do it, you might want to just say something along the lines of, I can't do this anymore. Please don't contact me again. If he is non-caring about the R, he won't care about the reason. He might have some kind of ego problem with you ending it, but that's not your problem.
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Registered: 11-10-2009
Tue, 12-22-2009 - 11:23am

No need for the it's over email, call, text. Go to EAS and read in the Healing Library about why it is never finished. There is nothing one last conversation can do besides him trying to sugar coat it and change your mind.


You can do it girl! You can put this behind you and move on to someone who loves you the way you deserve to be loved. You have blocked and walked which takes serious guts!!! Good for you!


You are in control now not him. You make the decisions not him. You have the choices in front of you not him. It is a new year for you to become who you want to be and live the life you want to live.


Things happen for a reason...sometimes to protect, sometimes to help us grow, sometimes to wake us up from the path we are heading down. The phone thing could be just that...something to make you think about what you want and not centering your life around someone who isn't available to you. Even though it will suck and feel like your world is upside down, in the end you feel better and have a clearer picture of you want.


Take care


Hope

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Registered: 08-28-2004
Tue, 12-22-2009 - 12:14pm

I've been following your post and I think you are making the right decision. Once you get to that breaking point

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Registered: 08-11-2009
Tue, 12-22-2009 - 9:15pm
Dont mean to hijack the thread just wanted to say hi caribu and glad to hear that you are doing okay.