Update on being desperate

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Registered: 10-25-2008
Update on being desperate
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Fri, 11-07-2008 - 9:07am

Hi there,

Just wanted to update everyone on my situation. First, I have had nc with him since Thursday of last week. He has not called to check on me or anything - loser!

I went to therapy and she was like oh my god! She suggested that I turn him in as what we did is against the law. I am currently thinking about it.

I am not going to lie - I wish he would call me, but he probably won't because he said that I should take a break - that is what he thinks I am doing.

It feels very powerful to be in charge of my own feelings. I have been with him in this craziness for 2.5 years. It has been crazy for the past 8 months of so. I think my feelings got the best of me and him - I guess he can keep it separate.

Neither of us ever wanted to leave our M so I never wanted him to fall in love with me - just show me some attention.

Oh well - I have another therapy session next week. It just feels good to talk to someone in a professional manner.

I want to thank of you again for bringing me back to reality. I could not have made a change with out you.

BTW - I bought the book Codependent no more - it is really good.

Take care...

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Registered: 10-03-2007
Fri, 11-07-2008 - 11:47am
I havent followed your story but i guess you are out of your A.Good for you,if you are happy that way. When 'love' comes between ,it makes things crazy.
Therapy is great in such cases.i am happy for you !
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Registered: 10-25-2008
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 8:15am
I really don't want it to be over, but it might be. I am just doing nc for awhile. It has been over 1 week so we'll see.
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Registered: 08-31-2008
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 9:20am
Please, please, continue nc. He is horribly wrong in abusing his power. You have no idea how much that would cost him if you will report him to boards, he most likely will lose his license.
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Registered: 09-01-2008
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 9:38am
I second what vivaciousgirl said!

 

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Registered: 11-06-2008
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 9:53pm

I have SO much to say on this subject,I only read your last post I didn't read the previous one to know that he was your therapist. This is what I have to say...he is a PREDATOR!!! There is absolutely no reason why this is OK. He took advantage of you when you were down...and if you ARE codependent, he's going to pick up on that almost immediately! I work in the same field. Your current therapist has a duty to protect. If she knows about this she should be reporting it. YOU should report it! You have no idea if he has manipulated and taken advantage of other clients. And who is to say that he will not do it again!!!!

I am very passionate about this subject. I cannot get into it on this board, but I will send you an e-mail through here about the terrible experience that I was involved. I was not a victim, I was a co-worker.

Anyhow, I wish you luck with your current therapist, I would say keep up the no contact, go to the EAS board and report the bastard!

Edited to add:
I just realized that you opt out of e-mail. If you want to e-mail me, I will share with you a horrific story of devastation for many(thousands!) based on the actions of one man, who was a therapist and had an affair. I hope you do e-mail me and maybe it will help to clarify all the reasons to get as far away from this man as possible.




Edited 11/8/2008 9:59 pm ET by lyricalmania (p-1876424392)
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Sat, 11-08-2008 - 11:27pm
Wow!

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Registered: 10-25-2008
Sun, 11-09-2008 - 12:23pm

Hi,

Yes I would definitely like to talk to you via email. My address is teachandsavelives@gmail.com.

Thanks!