update on his last day
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| Sat, 06-20-2009 - 12:05pm |
i survived that. i actually told him that i wanted to call in sick last friday. we spent our time together that thursday and said our private goodbyes then...i just wasn't sure i could hold it together with everyone around. we had a lunch for him and i was the one to call and make sure his wife was there (and his girls). she was so thankful to me for that. that wasn't that difficult. she deserved to be there.
but since then i had to get in touch with her or him about name spellings of their girls for some pictures and ended up talking to both of them...her at work and him at home. the conversation with him was wonderful. we just talked...normal talk, you know. i miss that with him sometimes, because we talk alot at work and have to be reserved...and this was just nice.
then he came by work yesterday to pick up somethings. i waited and had lunch at my desk and he came and visited. and i actually got a goodbye hug and kiss...it's so funny watching him worry about being sneaky...he may not leave until the 25th now...and i may get to see him next week...but i've made some peace with it...it's not any easier, i still cry every morning...that's my losing it time...
i could not believe his wife didn't take this time off of work to be with him. i actually thought they may have gone vacation because he didn't respond to my emails for a couple of days...but no, he's been at home and she's been at work. that is so different from me...i wouldn't leave his side for the rest of the time he was here. and that even means if it was my DH...and we don't get along alot nowadays...but i would still miss him and worry about him...she baffles me.
anyway...that's me...from here...i feel like i can't breathe sometimes and i'm not sure i'll be able to until he's safely home...
i'm so thankful to have this place to just type this all out...
-his-

(( hugs ))
does his W know about you and her H being together ?
As for W off to work,it could be either way.In this economy,no one wants to get fired so ,she is doing her job to let money in.or if her job is secure,they might not be getting along too well ( so the A) and she is better off at work than to sit with him and cant wait till he is gone.
I hope he is able to make the contact you need and feel good.
thanks for the hug...and to answer your question...his W has no idea about us. this is major "double life" for the both of us.
and i didn't mean to sound judgmental about why she hasn't been with him. we certainly all do what we have to do. she seems to be a "do what you must do" kind of person...kind of suck it up. but she is also VERY unhappy with him for leaving (deployed national guard...for the 3rd time)...he could have honestly retired from the guard, but has chosen not to...and she doesn't hide her feelings about that at all. but i also know that she is very worried about him. they don't get along that great (otherwise, there wouldn't be an "us")
i want the contact very much, but mostly to know that he is ok...
-his-