Update on me being so desperate

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2008
Update on me being so desperate
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Sat, 11-01-2008 - 8:54am

First, thank you all for your honest opinions. I agree totally that I need to move out of this A and get some help. The way this A started was so wrong. He was my therapist and made the move on me. I was so lonely in my M and there was little sex. He took advantage of me and at first it was fine b/c I was not E involved. I am not playing the victim totally b/c it takes two to tango. I have never wanted to leave my H and he did not want to leave his W so that was never the point. I was looking for someone to keep in contact with me - ask how I was doing- and seem like he cared. He rarely does that -

I have not talked to him since Wednesday and it feels good to not be trying to contact him. I know I have days ahead of me that will be hard. I definitely will be on the board to receive the support that I need.

I have confided in one of my dearest male friends about how all of this started. He is really pissed and has told me that I deserve better and that I am definitely not desperate. He has helped me see how crazy this guy is - I am not sure I was the first, and I probably will not be the last. I do plan on contacting my AP in two weeks. I was going to just wait a week, but that is not long enough for ME to get my head straight.

When I get normal again, I am thinking about seeing him and telling him that he should NEVER get involved with a client again. I would turn him in, but I am not sure what tat would mean. I know I would have to testify and my H would find out. I have a lot to lose also.

I have made an appt to go see a female therapist so I have that support also when the A is over.

Thanks again....

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2007
Sat, 11-01-2008 - 9:24am

I haven't been on here for awhile, but I do remember your story from awhile back.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-24-2008
Sat, 11-01-2008 - 1:12pm
I am sorry to hear what you have been going through. I can't imagine. That creep took stone cold advantage of you when you were vulnerable. You need to report him to the medical association, I am not sure what they are called exactly, but Google it. He needs to be stopped. If you report him he will lose his license to practice, as it should be. You may not have to testify, but don't let it go w/o looking into it. He will just continue his pattern of abuse. You have the power to stop it here.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-12-2007
Sat, 11-01-2008 - 2:02pm
I think he is using his position to get with females. I do not think you would be the last, and I bet you were not the first. Now....when you talk about telling that is totally up to you, but think about it this way. How is he REALLY helping anyone when he is sleeping with them and getting overly friendly? You will be fine, just know that this will be the past and life goes on. That is how life is. Don't look back and think how did I not know...just look forward and say I am free. Find your Rufus Sewell,
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-31-2008
Sat, 11-01-2008 - 3:36pm
Report him. What he's done to you is totally unacceptable.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2008
Sat, 11-01-2008 - 7:19pm

ERRRRRGGGGGG!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2008
Sat, 11-01-2008 - 7:46pm
Thank you for all your insight and caring words. I have an appt with a female therapist on Monday and will discuss stuff with her. I definitely do not want him to do this to anyone else ever!!!
I will keep everyone up to date.