Update on my AP, H and life!

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Registered: 03-01-2011
Update on my AP, H and life!
Wed, 12-12-2012 - 9:17pm


Haven't been on in a while...don't even know if half of you remember me. Just wanted to give an update on my life...H and I are doing very well. AP and I did see each other one last time. It was very hot and IC was incredible but for me it was a grand-finale kind of thing. After this, I went on a long trip with my H and AP freaked out...started to message me..."when will you be back?" etc. (SO PREDICTABLE!) and I have been feeling pretty great. I have let go of AP emotionally in my head. I ignored his question. It's been a few days and I haven't thought of writing him back. If this had happened 6 months ago I would've NEVER been able to ignore him but it's SO EASY NOW! There will always be a connection with him. Doesn't matter what that connection was. Sex, Lust, Love...whatever, who cares. I'm over the guilt too. I figure, there are plenty of people who slip and have an A. Doesn't mean I have to feel guilty about it for the rest of my life. Doesn't mean I am awful and it doesn't mean my M is doomed.

Getting over it/ him didn't really mean being angry or weird or sad...I just had to get to the point where I CARED less.

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Wed, 12-19-2012 - 9:56am
Hi Blue, Congrats to you! I know this is a big step for you and glad that your AP doesn't affect you anywhere near the way he use to. I know you have struggled with being being with him and hope that in another 6 months you'll be free of him completely. Wishing you all the best!


Much peace & Love,