Update on my new single life!
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| Sun, 10-19-2003 - 8:18pm |
Quick update, though. As I said, I'm living with mom. That's going well. She babied me a lot that first couple weeks, which I needed and which felt great. But now, she's slowly letting me stand on my own feet again, which I also need and which also feels great.
The kids are doing well. Having their own issues dealing with this, of course. But generally doing very well. The youngest, the 5yo, is having the most outward signs of trouble. He's acting up at school a lot. The others are dealing with it in keeping with each of their personalities and it's just going to take time, I think. The lines of communication are wide open with both their father and with me. And they do confide in us both, so that's a very big blessing.
Things have been up and down with H during these negotiations, though mostly positive for the big picture. We will likely file in the new year. He wanted to just keep hanging on ad infinitum, but I don't think that's healthy for the kids or for us.
Things are going wonderfully with OM. We're in a honeymoon stage, of sorts. While we certainly don't have the luxury of being public with our lives together, still, there's a deepening of the relationship that's taking place simply, I guess, because it's not complicated by my marriage anymore. He and g/f have apparently been having problems, which he hasn't told me about before now, I guess because of all that I've been going through. I still don't know much about that since he hasn't opened up a whole lot. He did say I shouldn't assume they're as close as I think they are. So that can't mean that things are very good. And in a wierd way, I feel badly for him. I know what it's like to live with that kind of crap. It's no fun and I wish he had a happy homelife.
Well, that's been my month in a nutshell. I'm hoping to get on soon and catch up with the archives. Hope you all are well.
Lucky

Lucky hon... so sorry I didn't get around to your post sooner... it's been a hell of a week for me and it's only Tuesday!
I was only but thinking of you last week and wondered where and how you were... and I'm pleased to hear that you and the kids are all coping and starting to move a head... so far, so good.
I hope it all keeps going this way for you and you get that perfect life soon enough.
Miss you hon... and do keep us posted on your happenings when you can
luv and hugs
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I must have missed this post the other day...I too have been wondering how things are going for you. I am so glad to hear that you and your family are adjusting and keeping the lines of communication open -- with that you will all be fine. I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you -- you are very brave!
What you wrote about your Mom is very sweet -- what would we do without our Mothers?!!! And remember, no matter what has happened in your soon to be post marriage, you will always be able to be there for your children in that special way ONLY a Mother can be!!
Glad to hear things are good with you and your OM as well. Keep us posted. I haven't been on this board all that long -- but I do miss seeing your posts. Come around when you can!
Charlotte
Edited 10/21/2003 8:59:32 AM ET by charlotte1203