Update on A (or non-A)

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Registered: 03-01-2011
Update on A (or non-A)
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Mon, 07-23-2012 - 7:00pm

AP is the biggest jerk of them all. I haven't heard a thing and I didn't expect to. I can't believe the cunning way in which he phased me out of his life. It's for the best FOR SURE but I just can't help feeling sad that the A is over. I miss the A itself more than HIM....well maybe I miss him a little....

I miss knowing someone is thinking about me. I miss feeling the butterflies. I miss his stupid face. I miss feeling like I'm dating in secret. I miss talking about his crazy ambitious projects. I miss the glamour he brought to my life as only a man in his position could. I miss the little "Hey" texts.

On a happy note H and I are in a great place now! I feel like I can focus on him! I never understood what people meant when they said they aren't "focused" on their primary relationships because of an A but now I understand how little I was giving my life...and how much more I could have been giving!

H doesn't really know what has happened except that I'm more affectionate and loving...we are having more IC and in general just happier.

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Registered: 06-03-2012
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 8:10am
I'm really happy to read this post, I'm also not surprised to read that you were more addicted to the A rather than your AP, because your AP was a complete a$$hole and did not deserve you. Glad to hear things are going well at home, as Odessa said, embrace your improved R with H, and embrace the fact you did not have a dday.

Your AP's response was a true blessing in disguise.
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Registered: 03-01-2011
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 10:42pm

Still feel the same and the A is definitely over. AP only wants to "win" in life. Doesn't matter what how who...just as long as he is "winning" and coming out on top. That's such a sad way to be! H is not like that at all. He is loving, caring and sensitive. He's not perfect but tries to be better everyday for me and our D. I couldn't ask for more. If AP tries to contact me again I will say to  him "Did you think I would ever talk to you again after what you did? Goodbye. Take care." I think he knows and maybe did all that on purpose. If he's gonna end it...he might as well win right? LOL, sad.

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Thu, 07-26-2012 - 3:39am

If AP tries to contact me again I will say to  him "Did you think I would ever talk to you again after what you did? Goodbye. Take care." 

Or...better yet...you could actually NEVER TALK TO HIM AGAIN...don't respond.  Because by saying what you plan to say above, you ARE talking to him again, and he wins.  He probably really wins, too, because that line leads to a big conversation and then back into the A again. If you are really done with him, blue, block him. That is the best way to say "Screw you" to him.

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Registered: 09-21-2010
Thu, 07-26-2012 - 2:56pm
Sience is golden my friend. Let him sit and wonder. Don't let this mofo take any more of your beautiful energy!
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Registered: 03-01-2011
Thu, 07-26-2012 - 3:08pm
Thanks guys...you're right. Time to be done!