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Registered: 04-16-2004
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Wed, 04-21-2004 - 2:41pm
Hi everybody.

Just an update on yesterdays post ( need advice) . Went home to H last night and he finally said he wants out. I dont know if he will follow through with this, or will change his mind. I dont know if that is what I want anyway. I think A is over since he stopped responding to emails,so I don't know what to do. I know I should probably be on a different board for this, but I appreciate all the advice i've gotten here. I think I may be really alone for the first time in my life. SCARY.
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Registered: 04-16-2004
In reply to: trwork
Wed, 04-21-2004 - 2:45pm
I forgot to mention that H also took off his wedding ring, and when we "were together" it was awful and all I could think about was the other guy. this sucks.
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Registered: 03-30-2004
In reply to: trwork
Wed, 04-21-2004 - 3:59pm
hi trwork. sorry your M may be breaking up. but you've obviously been unhappy or you wouldn't have been in an A. but now is the time for some intervention -- marriage counselor for both of you, together, to find out if the R/M is really over or if it's worth saving. as you said - H may change his mind. or you may really want out and be on your own for the first time.

yes it's a new and scary idea, but you'll never really know yourself and what you need to be happy and fulfilled if you're staying in a dead M so you won't be alone. being alone is a good thing. for the first time, your life can be about you - eating when you feel like it, buying 5 pairs of shoes and not having to explain why, a career change, buying a new home or just getting a kitten from the shelter. your life, lived your way.

think about what YOU want and then go for it. if you want your M to survive, you have to work at it. if you don't, then let it go.

good luck and stay strong and focused on just being yourself.

life