UPDATED: RULES OF EMAs

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Registered: 10-23-2003
UPDATED: RULES OF EMAs
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Tue, 01-06-2004 - 12:09pm
1. Deny, deny, deny

2. Accept that the relationship is what it is

3. When the negative outweighs the positive it's time to end it

4. Don't ask questions you aren't prepared to hear the answer to

5. Discretion (be careful, and don't tell a soul)

6. Don't think too much (primarily women)

7. Know yours & your partner's expectations/boundaries

8. Keep your balance

9. Open communication

10. Respect

11. Enjoy one day at a time, and have fun!!!

12. You can?t control what happens, but you can control your reaction to it

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-06-2004 - 12:41pm
hey lib - other than #1 and maybe #5, wouldn't these "rules" apply to every relationship!?

gurl

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Tue, 01-06-2004 - 1:51pm
Here's more:

Have all phone bills emailed to you & pay online(or use calling card).

Keep a stash of "supplies" at work or somewhere you can get to

Delete your calls from cell phone before going in the door

Call the time (or 411) after you've called MM (in case DH pushes redial)

Never come home and head for the shower, dead give away

Keep baby wipes with you at all times

Put car seats back in normal position

Delete cookies and clear history from PC daily


Luvin

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Registered: 10-28-2003
Tue, 01-06-2004 - 5:32pm
DISCRETION??

Just a question...

Discretion.... yes, but if something should happen to you, and no one knows about MM, who would tell him something happened. I am thinking about telling my sister, just because if something happens to me, he would never know... Remember, have been in A for over a year now, and it would destroy both of us, never to know something happened??

YES, I know you can not tell me what to do, just was wondering what everyone thought?

Mitz

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Registered: 01-05-2004
Tue, 01-06-2004 - 7:14pm
Luvin,

you sound like a very intelligent lady..

someone who's been there...done that.

so glad i fell into this web site...

all of you are a life saver.

btw.....SMS ???? couldnt figure that one out...

also,

how do i reply...to someone...like im doing now??

just go into the discussions and re read??

im new ..sorry..

wish there was an open chat room....

TOW

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Registered: 12-04-2003
Tue, 01-06-2004 - 7:29pm
hi tow welcome sweetie see you are new.ask how to reply very easy all you do is this after you read one post if you want to reply to the post all you do is click where it saids post your reply then write what you want to say.then goes see edit or post. then we all see what wrote hope that helps. hugs kimmy
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Registered: 01-05-2004
Tue, 01-06-2004 - 7:37pm
thx!!...got it....

I feel so young and naive to all of this and

to my situation...

Glad I found u all !!!

Im gonna need all of u BIG TIME

TOW

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Registered: 12-04-2003
Tue, 01-06-2004 - 7:59pm
hi tow welcome sweetie. my ask how old you dear.i think lm alot older then you lm 40 single lady but look very young for my age look i can be 27.i don't hink as navie used to be about men .my special man who married being old prud rigth now about us he in denail don't think i spell word rigth.he acting like nothing happen between us.which so wrong alot has happen between us.like him telling he loves me my guy is alot older then me.just hurting so much rigth now.hugs kimmy
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Thu, 01-15-2004 - 11:09am
One more rule: Keep your friends close, and keep an active social life. That way when he fails to call, or a dateless Saturday night could potentially get you down, you have other things to do than wonder what MM is doing with the wife. Also, keeps MM from thinking you will die without him (because you won't) and keeps him on his toes.
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Registered: 09-03-2003
Thu, 01-15-2004 - 12:43pm
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No, I don't think you should tell your sister for a couple of reasons. 1) Once you've told ONE PERSON something, it's no longer a secret. I'm sure you trust your sister with your life, but who's to say she won't tell the one person in the world she trusts (her husband or whomever), who will tell the one person they trust... 2) By telling her, you're putting her in an awkward position. She may not be directly covering for you, but even by keeping your secret she's having to cover up something. I just wouldn't do that to someone if it can be avoided, especially not for the reason you mentioned. The odds of something happening to either of you are pretty slim, but why not make a pact to never break contact without at least saying goodbye? You can't guarantee he'll follow through with it, but it's better than involving an innocent party. I don't have this issue because I work with MM and he can't get away from me!

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Fri, 01-16-2004 - 11:46pm
BUMPING!!!!!

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