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Viable Options?
| Fri, 03-12-2004 - 2:39pm |
Hello everyone. I am very new to this message board and am desperately seeking some advise from other of you that have been where I am now. I believe that I have found the love of my life, I've never felt this way about anyone and noone has ever made me feel more loved than him. We've discussed many times about a future together, realizing that this couldn't happen right away I was content with waiting. Well before I know it the excuses have run out and he still hasn't left, and I believe that if he hasn't left by now that he probably never will. It's not that he doesn't want to, I believe he's just not able to bring himself to hurt her as doing that would. So where does this leave me? I've tried the ultimatums, but couldn't stick to it. Facts are that I love him and I know that he loves me and I want to be with him regardless of the circumstances. However, in order to justify my acceptance which I swore would never happen, what are my options? Do I tell him that since he will not leave that I feel it's only fair that I start seeing other people also? Or do I simply just enjoy the time we do get to be together and try not to let the times we don't get to me? Or do I try to put things back in perspective where they originally were and simply enjoy the great sex? Or do I just give up all of the great times that we share and all of the joy that he has brought to my life and my kids lives simply because he can't give me what it is that I need from him? Have any of you had a similar situation when the affiar has become complicated because the two of you have fallen inlove?

Edited 10/1/2004 7:07 pm ET ET by sally289
Only you can really make those decisions.