The W

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The W
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Sun, 12-14-2008 - 10:39am

Okay..Here are some thoughts..If you had your choice would you rather be you or be her? He says he loves her. He's closest to her..yet here he is cheating on her. I'm going to be honest here in saying this and a part of me feels bad for even saying it. I saw his wife for the first time and I was shocked that she wasn't more beautiful. I was expecting her to be gorgeous because he is. And she's not at all. Just very simple and plain looking. I felt weird that I even thought that..but truly I was expecting some great beauty. I know love is not about looks. But has anyone thought that about their AP's wife? Do some of you think what is it he gets in me that he isn't getting from her? What is he attracted to?

It was so difficult for me to watch her because I felt like such a jerk..knowing what I know. I'm going to walk away again..but I can't go back on EAS until I've been in NC for a long time..it feels unfair to the women trying to support me. I feel like a misfit..lost and in limbo. Choose life or death..cuz purgatory is no fun! Someone said that to me once.

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Registered: 12-06-2007
In reply to: logan74
Wed, 12-17-2008 - 3:19pm

Based on what you tell us about your AP, yes

 

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Registered: 12-13-2007
In reply to: logan74
Wed, 12-17-2008 - 11:26pm

Hi,


I'm in an EA...went to an event this weekend where OM and W were both there.

Camperchik

 

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Registered: 10-03-2008
In reply to: logan74
Fri, 12-19-2008 - 10:59am
okay okay okay...so i'm addicted, obsessed and in deep....lol lol i admit it....

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 10-03-2008
In reply to: logan74
Fri, 12-19-2008 - 10:59am
okay okay okay addicted it is...ha ha ha...i can't help myself though

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 12-15-2003
In reply to: logan74
Fri, 12-19-2008 - 4:29pm
im addicted to my new one, i just feel it. think about him and want him.... the more i get the more i want, wonder why that is??????
~k
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Registered: 10-03-2008
In reply to: logan74
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 8:46am
i love the heck outta my "whateva you wanna call him"

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 08-19-2008
In reply to: logan74
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 2:36pm
Nice post Clair, unfortunately some here are too deep in the woods to see that tree that they may one day run right smack into. I also noticed strong denials here, so it sometimes takes someone to hit rock bottom before they really put an effort to getting out of their addictions. Most of the time it's too late and they've already caused loved ones un-repairable damage and pain.


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In reply to: logan74
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 2:55pm

Hey g2 :)


The thing of it is is when we are getting our fix and there appears to be an endless supply, we are feeling good and don't


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Registered: 06-01-2008
In reply to: logan74
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 3:06pm

Definately wouldn't want to be the W.

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Registered: 10-03-2008
In reply to: logan74
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 3:32pm
oh boy!

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss